It’s the most romantic time of the year. This is what we believe during Valentine’s day. And this time, I want it to be happier and romantic.
Wanna know why? I’m visiting my Chinese girlfriend in Shenzhen. It should be fun and exciting. This will also be my vacation in China!
Chen and I have been in a relationship for 5 years now. Our ways met during AFA’s tour in Shenzhen, China.
For those years of being in a relationship with her, we’ve experienced a lot of struggles. There are times we don’t get along, but love is still present.
Even if our cultures differ, still we did our best for understanding to come. To some it up, we did experience ups and downs but our relationship even became more stronger.
Now, Valentine’s day is coming. I’ll visit her but I also want to bring something special to her. A gift. What could be the best gift to give to her?
What about a ring? Do you think it’s time to tie the knot? Do you think it’s time already? What do you think guys? But I don’t want to stress her with that. Thanks for your responses.
It warms the cockles of my cynical heart to see that American capitalism has infected China so much since Nixon encroached upon Mao and Forrest Gump conquered the Asian ping-pong world.
It took less than 45 years!
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
Sweet post.
I say no to an engagement ring. Too much pressure on top of a lot of pre-existing pressure, and the emotion of the proposal will swamp everything else. Jen's idea of a simple ring would be nice. But wait on the proposal.
I say make her something by hand. For this Valentine's (Layla, if you are reading this, STOP RIGHT NOW - SPOILER ALERT!), I bought a little wooden box, stained it, added a photo of us on the front, and put a hand-molded clay heart embedded with a few glass beads inside. You don't have to be a great crafter or artist, the gesture of making something with your own hands for her will outweigh any flaws in the final result.
Good luck!
An engagement ring is definitely not something to give just because of a holiday which dictates that a gift should be given. If you are ready to make that commitment and think that the timing will make for a nice backdrop, go for it. Otherwise I would recommend something thoughtful that lets her know that she’s on your mind.
For example, it sounds like there is some long-distance dynamics at play. A good idea to work with this would be a pillow or stuffed animal scented with your cologne so that even when you two are apart she can imagine that you are right there with her.
Or perhaps she has a pet name for you or there is a place that holds a special meaning for both of you. Either way, maybe it’s something that could be represented as a charm or a symbol. Give her a necklace of said icon, letting her know that if she feels like a part of her heart is missing (i.e. you) that there is a spare piece right there to make things whole again.
Better yet, you could try and recreate your first date, although that depends a great deal on what said first date was. If feasible, it holds with it a great deal of possibilities to pause and reflect on the time you two have been together.
This could also be a great opportunity to introduce her to a hobby of yours that maybe she hasn’t quite taken up. Play guitar? Get her one. Love to camp? Get her a hiking backpack. In to video games? Get her an Xbox. It’s kind of a niche idea but it has some latitude.
All together, it really just comes down to what YOU want to get her. If you are really stumped, close your eyes and take all logistics out of the equation (e.g. cost, timing, ability, etc) and try to figure out what you would get her if you could get her ANYTHING. Just anything at all. Come up with things and take them seriously as ideas. I think you will be surprised just how doable some of them are and there may just even be one you choose to go with. The world’s your oyster.
I can’t think of a good tagline so this will have to do. Suggest a better one for me?
