A fan myself of being masturbated by hand, or foot for that matter, I'm wondering how women feel about clitoral stimulation.
Here is why I ask: We were having a very enjoyable evening in bed, stimulating girlfriend with my finger, very pleasurable it seemed for both. This was a slow, intimate time, she continued to "take it" until she came massively, squirting and wetting the bed badly. I've never came without physical stimulation but this almost made me, I was dripping precum like crazy.
Having said that, other times I'll be stimulating her and she just pushes my hand away and says "do me" when I would rather keep playing with her.
I try to take care of my nails but occasionally she'll say you're sharp and this obviously ruins the mood for both of us. Perhaps I need professional nail work? Or should she just encourage me to use a different finger?
Do you like it a little or until you cum? How offensive is it if there happens to be a sharp piece of nail that catches you?
Swirls, vs back and forth, soft, hard, slow, fast?
It would seem obvious there are many different likes and dislikes. However, hearing your thoughts may provide some commonality.
Curious as I really enjoy the intimacy of playing.
Would appreciate your time and energy to reply.
Covert Fantasies: I will try and set you straight as to what most of us gals like and dislike… First and foremost I’m going to use your very own original posting then plug in answers I think you can follow as a guideline for help - so here goes… You say, “A fan myself of being masturbated by hand, or foot for that matter, I'm wondering how women feel about clitoral stimulation.” You’re not alone in liking to be masturbated as you say either by hand or feet and most of us girls don’t mind doing this for you either. Just so long as we get pleased in return… We do like our clitoris stimulated but remember it’s a highly sensitive area to the touch, so be very gentle and caring. A light touch is usually all it takes to start that fire deep within.
“Here is why I ask: We were having a very enjoyable evening in bed, stimulating girlfriend with my finger, very pleasurable it seemed for both. This was a slow, intimate time, she continued to "take it" until she came massively, squirting and wetting the bed badly. I've never came without physical stimulation but this almost made me, I was dripping precum like crazy.” I know the reason… you took her to the point of no return, the top of the mountain, so she only had one way to go and that was to ejaculate - herself which made her squirt and squirt hard wetting everything in sight, you should be proud you were able to push her to such an orgasm. She reached something that most girls would love getting. Not all gals ever reach that plateau of ecstasy in our sexual intercourse. As for you ejaculating that’s because of her visuals in your eyes only - taking you to the edge also.
“Having said that, other times I'll be stimulating her and she just pushes my hand away and says "do me" when I would rather keep playing with her.” Even if you so want to finger her clitoris be sure she is receptive and wants you to do so, otherwise just restrain yourself and work around it, it’s safer that way.
(Note: It maybe she’s afraid she’ll wet the bed again and is self-conscious of the fact she wet the bed last time this happened.) Give her time.
“I try to take care of my nails but occasionally she'll say you're sharp and this obviously ruins the mood for both of us. Perhaps I need professional nail work? Or should she just encourage me to use a different finger?” In this its sounds as if you’re digging into her most sensitive area, which is a no-no stay away do not touch if you are rubbing her clitoris then use the fleshy side or portion of the thumb not the nail side and then only gently touch her there using a light circular motion only… if you are instead fingering her vaginal opening then trim your nails, short, then file them smooth or have a professional manicure done on them. No, it is not her place to simply ask you to use another finger - this is your responsibility, not hers… remember that!
“Do you like it a little or until you cum? How offensive is it if there happens to be a sharp piece of nail that catches you?” Personally, I prefer my boyfriend doing as I have stated above, until I'm ready for him to enter me… for him to lightly touch my clitoris using that circular motion an only until I’m extremely wet and before I cum… then I want his penis going in and fucking the crap out of me, giving me multiple orgasms, one after another for as long as possible. If he’s going to finger fuck my pussy first then he uses both his fore and middle fingers only, but sometimes just the single middle finger in the come hither motion within. He maintains both his finger and toenails in a pleasurable matter so I have no problem what so ever with him.
“Swirls, vs back and forth, soft, hard, slow, fast?” I have already said swirls or circular motion no back-n-forth because that just hurts way too much, soft, gentle and slow is so much better. This allows for a slow build-up to a burning desire and one fantastic build up to the grand finality.
“It would seem obvious there are many different likes and dislikes. However, hearing your thoughts may provide some commonality.” You’re right there, first of all, ask your girl what she likes then follow her lead. Then and only then will you both get and receive actually what you both want and need, then both of you’ll be much happier in your sexual life - relationship with each other.
“Curious as I really enjoy the intimacy of playing.” Then the best advice I can give here is both you and her need to communicate with each other. Talk, talk, talk then after all this talk some more… never stopping talking to each other, ever! Then maybe your sex life will get on the right track and stay there.
I do sincerely hope this will get things into a togetherness you sound like you want... Good luck!!!
Would appreciate your time and energy to reply.
NOT MUCH TO ADD, Jessica summed it up nicely. However, I work outside, and this time of year every year my hands are a wreck. No amount of lotion will fix them. And I get the same news from my wife, rough ! And it kills it for her. So if I dont use her vibe or ring I put on nitrile gloves. I cant feel her as well but she is not shy about telling me what she needs after 20yr together. So if she tells you sharp or rough, take her at her word and either file em down or do something different. But like the lady said, talk it out. gud luck
Very much appreciate the replies KJessica and Reggie, thank you.
Great to have another view of the issue, will keep the filing up to date!
All the best,
R.
Clitoral stimulation works many different ways for different women. And sometimes not the same way twice with the same woman. It's an elusive skill to master. Most men never quite get it right.
I love it an can almost cum within a few minutes of manual stimulation. It can help put me in the mood very quickly if I'm not. I'm sure each woman is different though.
Very much appreciate your responses, Kink, Beffer, Pink and Bottleblonde, thank you.
Desires fluctuate and not always easy to read. As mentioned everyone is different and may even have different needs or desires given the moment, or, what they have been watching.
Exploring and experimenting can be fun too. Looking forward exercising the fingers further,; tongue and other parts for that matter!
All the best,
R.
Also, thank you all for writing positive, helpful and kind replies, much appreciate.
R.
Thank you kjessica, I will give those a try. But I gotta say, they are pretty bad at this point. Tried to p.m. you but I wasnt able to. Thanks again.
First I believe a few dollars of investment in some nail clippers. No need for a professional to trim your nails.
I very much love having my clit given lots of attention. Fingers, tongue, lips, teeth. Light nibbling holding my clit in a lovers teeth while giving her a tongue lashing while humming. A silver bullet does a good job also. Usually once I cum she will need a little rest. Usually that is when I return the favor if I am playing with another woman or a blow job for one of my male lovers.
I like all the methods you mentioned.
Brandie
I prefer to eat pussy, but sometimes fingers are called for. Make sure your fingers are wet from gentle penetration, then aproach her clit. There are many ways to stimulate a clitoris, all of them can be successful. Pay very close attention to your lover. If she starts to moan you are doing it right. Experiment. Don't develop a routine, it gets stale. If she goes off like Old Faithful, you are both very lucky. Let her know this is a good thing, that she is special.
Cerce
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