Anyone else currently in or been in the position of Lush being a secret but starting to realize you wanted to be out about it?
For me, Lush has been a bit of an "affair", a way to get my sexual desires and frustrations worked out relatively safely. But as I get more and more positive comments and start placing or running up in comps, I'd love to share my writing with people I actually know. I'd love to boast and celebrate if/when I finally win a comp or get an EC (neither has happened yet but who knows).
My wife won't take to it very well. She's never been fond of porn, erotica, and such. The problem is if I "come out" in my non Lush spaces, she's going to find out. I'm even a bit worried about my Twitter because I've realized that while she's hardly a regular there, she does follow me and if you look at my followers list, I've got some Lush connections on there who aren't as reticent about it as I am. In some ways, I'm content to leave it that way. Take the passive-aggressive approach of dealing with it if/when she finds out rather than proactively revealing my secret life.
Others I know will probably be more sympathetic. Some may even encourage me or at least be interested in seeing what I've written.
Thoughts, fellow Lushies?
For me, this whole scenario isn't entirely a sexual outlet. Stepping back, it's absolutely about expressing yourself. In this case, it involves writing which is as much an art as a skill. People may take issue with the subject matter you choose to write about, but in the end, I believe would have to embrace the execution. You may want to try writing a story for your wife so she can feel connected to the idea and see firsthand what you're trying to do. It's really not that different than keeping a journal. The beauty of it to me is the way it's open to interpretation. You're simply expressing yourself, be it fantasy, factual or a blurred line between both. No one but you will know. No one gets hurt, you explore the creative process and get to see how well you convey your ideas and how they're interpreted by others. At the end of the day, you're developing a skill that can be applied to anything including business.
Best of luck, I hope things work out for you.
I have a handful of writer friends who I have "come out" about Lush to. They don't know my username, but they know I am here (and some know that I met Layla here). They've also read quite a few of my Lush stories, just not on Lush.
there are those in my tight circle that know I write on Lush. including my wife. I have nothing to hide, for I Find writing a release valve, after dealing with the public day after day. Everyone want's a deal and cheap books are a deal.
I've never been 'in' about Lush.
Lush for me has always been 'out'.
I do not consider there is anything to ashamed of by being a Lushie.
The only thing I'm ashamed of is wasting time here.
In the world's harsh wear and tear many a very sincere attachment is slowly obliterated.
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go for it. if you feel that your writing here is an important part of your life and you're proud of it, share it. you may find that your spouse will be more accepting than you think. also, you might spark an interest that you both can share. who knows where that could take your relationship. do it.
