Now, I'm not complaining but wondering the reasons to why my husband likes to watch/imagine me being with other guys, what specifically is the turn on - I can understand the enjoyment when he is there and we have shared threesomes with a particular male friend, but currently with him working away he's pushing me to continue enjoying myself with this friend and I can't help but feel this would be betraying him, almost cheating? He says he is fine with it and wants me to and that it will turn him on - where is the line drawn? What is everyone else's opinions?
This is just me - it wouldn't turn me on if my wife or girlfriend was with another man. That's not to say I'd get all pissed off if she wanted that but it wouldn't turn me on. Now, if she wanted sex with another woman - that would turn me on. Or if she actually wanted to watch me have sex with someone else ( woman or man), that would turn me on. Double standard perhaps but it's the truth.
I know you were asking for the guys thoughts on this but I had some comments that may help provide some insight...
I know for many guys who are justly proud of their wives, "Hot wives" is the current term and trend.
This coupled with the fact that they are confident in their relationship with you but know you are very desirable and sexy, it is a sense of pride and ego that you are allowed to fuck other guys.
For some, it is this and also the arousal of watching your wife, fuck like a real life porno in front of them and see what other things they do with other men. Others like to know the details when they cannot be there to watch in person.
I have been told by some that this also relates back to some primary times when there were more men than women in tribes or other ancient communities where they serviced the need of many men but belonged to one man who was usually a superior or leader, and therefore regarded as more powerful amongst other men.
I understand your guilt and uncertainty about this and suggest that you keep an open communication with your husband. Make sure you both share all the details of how you feel and your concerns as well as setting up safety protocols for you both.
This is something that can go much further and can be enjoyed by both of you but takes communications, trust and honesty to make it work. It may not be something that you do a lot, or may be something you enjoy with some frequency. But make sure you both agree on the limits and the others involved know where the line is.
Enjoy!
Kisses!
Steph
Hmm... interesting question. I have a few thoughts that may or may not speak for your husband but could at least shine some insight nevertheless.
When a woman is in a relationship with a man, he 'has' her in a manner of speaking. When other men lust after his woman, it reinforces the idea that his woman is highly desirable and that he is therefore a success for being in a relationship with such a high-caliber of a woman. It's an ego-boost. Now, it's one thing for other guys to glance at her while she passes by. It's another thing for them to actually sleep with her. The pride that comes from other men checking out his woman is increased greatly when said men actually pursue her to the point of sex.
There is also the idea that a man must provide for his woman. Food, shelter, etc., etc.. This mindset could include sexual satisfaction and that if he can't be there to physically get her off, he sees it as his duty to allow her to achieve orgasm any way she sees fit, including sleeping with other men.
He may want to have a MMF threesome but figures it would be easier to attract that second male if she pursues one on her own to start.
It could also be that he is wanting to sleep with other women and thinks that if he gives the go-ahead to her that she'll eventually give the go-ahead to him. This, however, is very unlikely so I wouldn't think too much into it but not entirely impossible so it needs to be mentioned.
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my wife and i both enjoy watching the other with other people, we are swingers and both find it a turn on. One of my favourite things is to lick her clean after sex
Could it relate to the old Quote "Be a Princess in the Parlor and a Whore in the Bedroom." Or something like that.
Do some men really desire their wife to be a Whore and when she is having sex in his view with another man she is his Whore.
We have been in the lifestyle for years and I know my guy love to watch me perform with another man or woman.
In addition, he knows I am an exhibitionists that loves to perform for the audience.
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This is the guys section and it seems only we women are commenting.
Sorry Guys
As a guy, I don't think it's a good thing. I'd like to have my wife all to myself. If I need to have another guy bang her to get me going then there is a problem with me and our relationship. I should be able to fuck my wife every night, no problem.
This is just my opinion.
Its semi-natural. Its like when you have the best car in the neighborhood. You like to show it off...have people see it...maybe even take them for a spin in it. Then it comes down to who has this desire to share. I believe it is okay as long as both you are your husband both understand his desire and can either accept it or atleast cope with it. Its a hard line to walk because it can either lead to super sexual situations...or to regretful relationship ruin. Just be cautious and knowledgeable and you will be good to go sweetie.
Speaking from a ex wife's point of it... It would make me wonder how much my husband really loved me if he was willing to share me with another man....I can say I had a Dom that enjoyed me fucking other men and it made me feel like trash and very unloved by him...Just saying...
