I think it can. Obviously not always, but I wonder what the percentage is.
Do you have any thoughts on this?
I'm just curious.
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Quote by kinky_girl
I think that you are probably right, like you said- not all instances but some.
As a child I was physically (note- NOT sexually) abused by my step father and he and my mother had a very violent relationship right up until her death. I was also bullied very badly at school. At the age of 12 I was basically plunged into the role of mother- cooking, cleaning etc. which deprived me of a childhood in a way. I tried to commit suicide three times between the ages of 15-17, genuinely believing the world would be a better place without me because that is what I thought by that point.
I am very glad it didn't work out for me because I'm now 25 and have been happily married to my Daddy Dom for just over a year. I am not an incapable woman, I am a nurse and am frequently in charge of the lives of 15 people, plus discharge planning, liasing with the wider team and dealing with emergency situations.
I don't submit to my husband because I feel like I am less worthy than him, that I can't control anything or because I am so used to being told what to do... I submit to him because I crave his guidance, love and protection, like any submissive does.
Maybe my past has influenced me and shaped me into the submissive woman that I am, but rather than that being as a result of negative feelings toward myself I feel that if anything I am just trying to find things that have been previously missing from my life. I do wonder if I identify as a little because my childhood was quite traumatic and I want to regain those missing years. But I don't know.
All I know is that I love him as a man, as my husband and as my Daddy Dom and I am happier now than I ever thought possible. That's all that matters to me I am finally enjoying life!
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Aw, that's great. I'm happy for you.
I could explain why I am, and I have to close friends.
It's similar to yours but different.
Really horrible things have happened to me but nothing worse than my mother letting me down. (Including getting at knifepoint by two men)
She's still an evil, horrendous bitch who still tries to control me.
I think I'm stuck emotionally as a teen.
For the longest time I drank a lot, for a long time, to mask the pain.
I don't drink anymore.
Now I'm into other bad behaviors when dealing with rejection, pain, ect...
Things I was never into before.
Quote by kinky_girl
Thank you! I honestly never thought I would settle down because I didn't think I'd find anyone I trusted enough. And then about 8 weeks after I broke up with my ex fiancé (who is a whole story in himself) I found my husband and it just clicked.
I'm really sorry to hear what happened to you. I am however glad that you've managed to stop the drinking! It's a big step. I went through a phase of it myself and it's poisonous in the long run.
Quote by thesexynun
Pain can bring a whole array of consequences
Very interesting question
Quote by Barbielicious
I think it can. Obviously not always, but I wonder what the percentage is.
Do you have any thoughts on this?
I'm just curious.
Quote by Metilda
I've had all sorts of discussions with people on their interests and where they might come from. Some feel it comes from being abused themselves. But it's not always a way of "acting out" - nor does it even reach back to childhood for some people.
For example: one person always had an interest in bondage and related elements, but when his partner (a female) in the past abused him, he became a dominant in the bedroom (only). That way he can still enjoy some elements of these things, but from a different vantage point. And of course he does not repeat the actions made against him, but tries to enjoy it in the way he should have been allowed to experience it.
Quote by patokl
I'm sure that it's true in some cases. People who have been abused so badly during their youths that their whole system believes they are inferior, are likely to become either someone obsessively controlling every aspect in their life, or someone very fatalistic, docile and submissive. That must have an impact on how they see themselves as sexpartners.
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I think it can. Obviously not always, but I wonder what the percentage is.
Do you have any thoughts on this?
I'm just curious.