Well here's the thing....I recently met a girl and we have been going out for 3 months. Being Indians of course we have to keep things a bit secret. Well the important thing Is that we decided to get physical this week and I a bit nervous...considering its my first time. Now I know girls break their hymen at the first time, but does something happen with guys too...something that signifies popping the cherry. Also I would like some advice on how to give her the greatest pleasure.....help would be really appreciated.
Sorry for such a long question.
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Nothing similar to hymen-popping for guys! They just usually cum within 3 seconds, the first time they have sex! lol Go down on her until she cums a few times before doing the deed!
It is a long time since I took a guy for his first time but I was never aware of the Popping Cherry syndrome in a guy. Some do cum quickly and this does not make the woman happy - it is your responsibility to ensure she gets to cum as well.
I would go down on her before you enter her for the first time - at least she will achieve an orgasm and make her first time more memorable. Remember it is HER first time as well and she wants it to be memorable as yours.
Good luck and best wishes.
Definitely lots of oral. If she has an orgasm or two before you have sex, she'll be more lubed and penetration will be easier. If she's not naturally lubed, make sure you use plenty of the store-bought kind. You may want to start with a finger first before easing in. As well, try to have an orgasm yourself first - either with her, or before you see her if she's shy - that will help you last longer. Don't forget the condom. Have fun!
My advice is, take it slow and do everything to make her comfortable. Candle lights, wine, music, low lights, or even tea if she not a drinker or under age.
When I encounter someone that never had sex or not very experience, I use a lot of humor to get her relax. It will help you relax as well.
Have confidence and take the lead so she doesn't have to worry about figuring out what to do. Maybe tell her that you are going to lead her. Don't be a porn star - acts you see in porn is way too intense. you can play out fantasies when you both feel comfortable. Take it slow and sensual.
Look for facial expressions and ask her if she is experiencing any discomfort. Foreplay is also a key to helping her get into the mood and like what DDoll said, maybe start with your fingers. Don't just shove it in but play around the Va JJ by rubbing first and slowly for a finger in. Lube is good, but i recommend using water based lube. The petroleum base might cause a discomfort reaction. You could get that at your local adult shop. Don't be embarrassed and ask for help. I buy all sorts of perverted stuff at my local shop often and some of them know me by name. haha.
And the most important thing - WEAR A CONDOM!!! you don't want your first time to be an experience. I am not saying kids are horrible, but you got you whole life ahead of you. I had a buddy that got a girl pregant his first time in high school. it wasn't good.
Don't buy cheap condoms and make sure it's lubricated.
It might not happen at all the first try. i have been in situations where the girls were virgins and they weren't ready. Sometimes its a progress.
I remember my first time, we were both virgins and didn't know what the hell we were doing. I actually didn't use a condom, but luckily, it was hurting her so we stopped. It took us about three tries to actually finish.
Good luck and be safe
Well we did it over the weekend...and it was good..might even turn that in to a story....or just might share here..maybe!!
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My first time I had difficulty finding the hole. Embarrassing, I know, but it happened. Don't be afraid to have her help guide you at the start.
Also, make sure she is wet. Don't just ram it in.
Use a lubricated condom. And don't have just one on hand, have like five. You're not going to last very long but the upside is you'll probably recover pretty quick.
And don't forget about kissing and foreplay. It'll get you both in the mood, it's not to be overlooked during the act, and even afterward a little bit of cuddling will go a long, long way for both of you.
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I see this thread is over a year old, but in case others are preparing for a first time, my advice is do not be in a hurry. It is also quite possible that your first few times will not be good. I had a high school boyfriend and our first time, it was a first for both of us, though I had been with several girls, was about 2 seconds of disappointment. I still loved him. The next few times were better. We finally got to where it was great for both of us. I think that may be why so many women who are lesbian had a fairly early experience with men that was not satisfactory.
No matter what your gender take time, enjoy your partner and know that you will get better!
