I dont know if i should have asked this in the LGBT section, as i am expecting answers mainly from women, but men can also reply.
I dont remember if me or someone else asked this earlier.
If you are an introvert, would you date an extrovert? If your dates were fun, can you suggest some tips?
My wife is an introvert and I am an extrovert. I think we compliment each other well and has helped us both. It has brought out qualities that we wouldn't have if it weren't for being together.
For those of you who are not familiar with what these are, here is a very generic explination.
Introverts (or those of us with introverted tendencies) tend to recharge by spending time alone. They lose energy from being around people for long periods of time, particularly large crowds.
Extroverts, on the other hand, gain energy from other people. Extroverts actually find their energy is sapped when they spend too much time alone. They recharge by being social.
Speaking as an introvert (if a very social one) I have always tended to have dated extroverts. Must be a question of opposites attracting!! And the fact that I'm a very good listener... ;)
In terms of tips, its actually easier to be on the quiet side if your date is chatty and extroverted, as they will happily talk away with no prompting and so this avoids any painful silences!!
Hey. Big suprise, I'm a total extrovert but I'm attracted to introverts. Easy to explain. Extroverts need an audience. lol.
I think there is a better balance in the relationship between an extrovert and an introvert.
I am an extrovert what ends up attracting unwanted friends, I end up doing my best to keep quiet sometimes.
I completely agree with the other Lushees - introverts and extroverts compliment each other! My ex was an introvert and it's true, he provided me with a willing audience and always listened. Sometimes I'd perk him up and he'd calm me down, it worked well.
I like to think he's helped make me more balanced as a person, even now.
Yes they are fun sometimes
Thank you, all. I am curious to know, as an introvert, what kind of behaviour helped you to be in a relationship with an extrovert? Did you or your lover make some changes to the way you lived/ talked so as to be happy, together?
We didn't really make any conscious efforts to change anything, I think it just naturally happend from spending time with each other. She came out of her shell more and I started enjoying the simple things and not having to go out every night or always be around friends to have a good time.
Generally, people would not consider me introverted. I love people and can be very social, but that's not what feeds me. I can do without it, but I definitely need my private moments of introspection and growth without the influence of others. I'm the one stepping back to examine things even within a crowd. My husband on the other hand is the gregarious extrovert that wraps people around his finger for play. He can work a crowd or do the one-on-one thing with ease. He never tires of it. But, with any extrovert it's the person that he reserves just for you that makes the difference. I adore the person everyone sees, but I love the person that he trusts me enough to share, it is the part of him that most will never gain access to. That makes all the difference. If you have an extrovert that is only one dimensional, then you don't really have that person--you have their personae. And, that may be the pull for you. Doesn't work for me, they are a dime a dozen. Too, an extrovert has to have a deep respect for an introverts need to be away from the crowds eye. That is equally necessary as well.
I'm reasonably introverted, and my first love was Miss Popularity. It was tough at times, yes, and I don't think she ever really knew how uncomfortable certain situations made me, but when it was just the two of us, it became the least important thing in the world. We compromised for each other, learned to live in each other's worlds, because it was so worth it to have each other.
Some nights we would go out to parties, some nights we would stay in and watch a box set. It worked. We were together for a reason, and our relative extrovertness was not one of them.
I've been an introvert my entire life. Nothing can change that, and he would be incredibly frustrated if he tried. I like people well enough, but I don't want to be around people all day long, every day. It's too draining. I need my quiet time. As long as he can accept that and not try to force me to be around people all the time, I don't have a problem with it.
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Depends on how extroverted they are. I've had some colleagues that really drained all energy with their need for attention. I would never date anyone like that.
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yes, i would date an extrovert. two of my best friends are extremely extroverted and i feel that we get along so well because we balance each other out. i've dated more outgoing men and felt that it applies there as well.
Yes. I would date an extrovert.
I'm an Ambivert, i like to feed off extroverts from time to time but i like my own introverted time to myself as well. I'm currently in a relationship with an Introvert who is quite shy when out in public. At her home or mine she is in her safe place and i like that. I feel fine to be like that. I can be introverted at times or extroverted. Makes for challenges that is for sure. ?
I'm an introvert (off the scales), and married an extrovert. As others have said, once we figured out what we needed from each other, we balance each other out.
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I'm an introvert (off the scales), and married an extrovert. As others have said, once we figured out what we needed from each other, we balance each other out.
Post-avant-retro-demelodicized-electro-yodel-core is my jam.
I am an introvert although I would like to be more extrovert.
I would date an extrovert but not someone who was really loud and showy
I'm an extroverted introvert. I like intelligent people and both types of woman interest me. So yes. Most have been introverts I guess that's the type that I attract. I'm not into competing for a woman's' attention. I don't chase.
I am a serious introvert. I have had relationships with extroverts. I enjoyed their energy. But I found eventually, I had to take a back seat to of their interests. I am bi guy, this is happened with all of my male and female partners. The fact is the more you in common with your significant the better. So introverts, stick with your fellow introverts.
The romantic bi guy.
Stay horny my friend.
I'm an INTJ and I tend to like extroverted women.. I'm introverted but I'm very confident, so I need someone to match that.
I'm an extrovert so I wouldn't date or bother w/ an introvert. Feels like I'll be babysitting or having to talk them into having fun.
It’s pretty fucking annoying to date an overly introverted person. Homebodies should date homebodies.
My wife is an introvert and I am an extrovert , We have been together for nearly 30 years. The 2 tend to compliment each other .So I would go for it as IMO it works. If you want to get the other person ie the introvert talking to open up ,then don't used closed questions( yes and no types) , use questions starting with How, What, When, Why etc.
As an introvert I get stressed out if i have to do all the talking and so being with other introverted people leads to long periods of awkward silence. :P
