been stalked? Not just on FB, but in real life?
I am working on revising a story, and my FMC is being stalked. I've done some research on it, so I have a pretty clear idea of the progression of stalking behavior, and the psychology behind it, but I am interested in hearing people's experiences and stories, particularly for the emotional aspect of what it feels like to be stalked, the physical and psychological toll it takes on a victim, and how it affects day to day life.
Asking questions is part of how authors do research. Getting first hand accounts is what makes the writing more realistic. I guess some people don't understand that. If it bothers you so much, then don't respond. There is really no need to be so rude.
No, never been stalked. At 45 you turn somewhat invisible. There is no reason to stalk me.
Should anyone ever be "stalked". Absolutely not! I can at least imagine the distress that would cause anyone being stalked. I cannot fathom why anyone would choose to stalk someone, unless they are emotionally immature and insecure, and probably in need of therapy.
Have I been accused of stalking? Sort of. I showed up one too many times within view of a slightly demented ex-gf, in a public setting (a popular donut shop). It was pure coincidence, but it elicited a text from her later that day, making her accusation. I made it very clear in my reply that I could not possibly stalk someone so mentally unstable. It was maybe not the right thing to say, but it served its purpose: the conversation stopped, and we have not talked since.
In fact, we were within eyesight once again. She decided to leave the area when she caught sight of me, even though there was no chance we would ever interact, and I had zero plans to walk up to her or talk with her. Simply put, she had already become a totally different person from the person I once liked (she found religion), so I had zero interest in connecting with her ever again. I only feel for her, in the sense that she needs some better direction in her life than it seems she is getting from her religious cult.
"Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than open one's mouth and remove all doubt" - Mark Twain (or Lincoln, or Confucius, or...)