There is this new girl at work who started a month ago, she's absolutely beautiful, and we only made very quick small talk introducing ourselves and that was it for a couple weeks.
2weeks later, we find ourselves close by and start talking during work. I randomly asked what she's doing tonight, and she explained she wanted to get a drink but her friend was bailing on her. I jumped in and asked if shed like to go with me instead since I'd also love a drink after work. She accepted. I got out of work an hour before her, she texted me to come get her when she was ready to leave. So I drove back picked her up and we decided to just hangout at my place instead of a busy bar. So we sat outside on the deck, each drank a couple beers, and we chatted and laughed all night. Very flirty and fun, I didn't over exert and hit on her, we were basically strangers a few hours before. I drop her off at home, then by the time I get home she texts me and asks if I got home okay, I reply and ask if she had a good time. She said yes she really did, then I asked if she'd be interested in hanging out again next week. She said yes! Fast forward a few weeks since then, she has used her busy excuses to flake on our planned next hangout as well as decline other offers since then.
However, she texts me everyday without me txting first. This morning I woke up and she sent me a text saying, look I haven't changed at all, and it was a pic attached to the text of her when she was like 5.
Does this girl like me? I'm playing it very slowly and cautiously. I barely txt her and do not hit on her in a sexual way, but I've called her beautiful a couple times. I'm very confused. Her backstory is she's in school and working 2 jobs, so she is very busy but still confuses me.
Doesn't sound too promising.
I wouldn't say you've been "friend-zoned", per se, but it sounds like you're on the way. Those texts you get may not be just for you - they could be all contact-all texts - social media 1990s style! I wouldn't read too much into them. If her life is that hectic she may not want a relationship with anyone right now. If she has to work with you then she'd should give serious thought before having casual sex with you.
The only way you'll actually know is to talk it out with her. Scary but it'll save you a hell of a lot of angst. Just don't be an asshole if what she says isn't to your liking.
Good luck
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NEW! Want a quick read for your coffee break? Why not try this... Flash Erotica: Scrubber It was a bad move to ask her to hang out again the same night you first hung out. She really isn't sure what she's doing the next week and she's not gonna say no especially if you had just had a good time so you really don't know where you stand when you do that.
Her canceling but texting you may seem like mixed signals but maybe it's not. She does sound like a busy girl. She could be texting you because she really is busy and doesn't want to make you feel rejected. I guess it depends on what exactly she texts you. If she is flirty... You need to actually think of something fun to do rather than just hanging out at your house again or something like that. If she likes baseball games, or amusement parks or something like that you need to tell her you scored some tickets. Inviting her over to your house may may her think you're just trying to score. A dinner date might seem too formal and an obvious "I like you" kind of date. But if you can figure out a more exciting date to take her on and she's flirty like she was on the first time you hung out you need to just make a move. She'll either reject you and you can laugh it off or she'll be into it.
If she rejects you she just wanted to be friends and she'll slowly faze you out of her life unless you're cool and not an asshole to her for getting rejected. Remember you work with this girl so don't be that bitter dude.
Since this morning there's a few updates
I replied to her picture msg and was joking with her, and also complimented her, she received it well and flirty. Then I asked if she wanted to do anything tonight. She replied said she couldn't because she had to work. So I don't reply for a few hours and then I'm like soooo, I'll pick you up after your shift. She replies, asking what will we do? I told her since it's late we can just hangout over here again and do whatever she's comfortable with as long as we can chill n talk I'm happy. She replied, okay sounds good.
She's really confusing
Well, it seems like she might be interested. However she might not be sure that you like her yet. I would really just focus on being friends still, but I wouldn't wait too long before hinting that you care for her.
Well, it seems like she might be interested. However she might not be sure that you like her yet. I would really just focus on being friends still, but I wouldn't wait too long before hinting that you care for her.
Last night after my update on here I grew a little frustrated. I sent her a text at 1130, an hour and a half after she said she wanted to talk, my text read: are you alright?
No response until I went to sleep around 1am, then I wake up and there's a text from her at 4am saying: yeah, I called you.
My phone never went off, she never called. So she lied to me. Really pissed me off and I figured it as the last straw. Upon waking up I replied to her 4am lie and said: "yup, I'll just see you around at work. Don't worry about it, really". She replied back a face- :/
And that's that. No happy ending lol
Hi,
You sound really young, with all the expectations of the young.
You say she's in school and working, at what is a new job? That's a lot on her plate. No wonder she's not the best at responding. I can tell you some of the people I normally talked to regularly, haven't heard from me in ages due to school/work/time issues. Even my very best friend frequently feels neglected. I simply don't have the time or energy to get involved with things that aren't directly school/work. Ive been pursued by guys who don't respect the schedule I am on, and very few things can make me more annoyed, chase me away faster.
I've used the "I called" line when I really wanted to have some time to myself. You say you wanted to "hang out" after work. I can tell you as a working student, there are few things I'd like to do less then "hang out" after work with someone. For her to have entertained the idea even remotely suggests you have a chance with her- IF you haven't screwed it up by being a pushy douche.
Go back and read Felix's advice. A girl in school and work? you need to pique her interest, offer her something besides a chance to "hang out." I hear "hang out" and what that says to me is, "wasting time you should be studying." and go with the advice to make a date on a non work day once she is out of school.
Going to school and working is hard, and depending on her class load, it might be all consuming. Listen to her, she told you she was busy, and you kept pushing. Instead of enticing her with something she would like, you are chasing her with temper tantrums.
On the flipside, if I were her, I would not go out with someone who couldnt respect the fact that I am busy with school and work.
Whatever dude.
You've been offered good advice in this thread by several people. I suggest you go back and reread it, in its entirety. But you won't. Carry on.
Some people are gonna do what they are gonna do regardless.
I will try to keep this simple... Tons of great advice up there if you choose to listen to it...
My advice??... Stop thinking! Just do... If you want to text her, text her... Dont play the waiting to text back game... Or any game for that matter... If she is texting you first everyday, gonna make her think she is unimportant...
Again, stop thinking!!... just do what feels right to you without thinking...... She will either like you for it or not... One way or the other, you find out the truth...
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I cant say without knowing her personality and all the intimate little details, but I can say, having been in similar positions myself in the past some girls just like the attention of someone chasing them. They will lead you on a little, the moment you pursue them they back off. You stop showing interest suddenly they are flirty and all friendly again.. process repeats. Just a thought.
If I were you I would stop chasing, talk to her when you see her around, text her when she texts you, flirt if the moment feels right, but stop throwing invitations at her. At least then you will see if she tries that little bit harder to spend time with you or not and you might get a sense for her intentions.
So as I left it, the last text I got from her was a :/ upset face after telling her to just forget about this stuff and no hard feelings which was Tuesday night. Yesterday I wake up, go throughout my day normally and then at 9:45pm I get a text from her. It's another stupid pic of herself when she was a little girl, and the message reads: "see I told you I haven't changed".
Literally have no idea what that's supposed to mean. Last time she did this we were cool and I went with it and joked n flirted over her pic. I haven't responded yet though, don't think I will. But what's the deal? Why send me weird younger version pics of yourself?
Attention seeking, she wants you to talk about her. She likes people to comment on her, specifically her looks and this is supposed to bait you into that conversation. Or as they said in a previous post its a mass text sent to everyone on her contacts for the same reason as I just said.
Personally Id not reply to it and see what the next one says.
call me around 10. Then it's 9:58 she texts and says she isn't home yet but she will call me. I don't reply
