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My wife is up for this when she's had a drink but not when sober not sure how to take it
Quote by MadMartigan
It means, imo, if you have to get drunk for something, it isn't something you really want to do.
Tread carefully. If she's really not into it when sober, she's really not into it much.
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BINGO! Exactly what I wanted to say. Tread carefully indeed. As I've said countless times on here, sometimes those fantasies are best left as fantasies. Unfortunately, they don't all turn out like a scene in a porn movie. And once that bell has been rung, there is no going back from it. If she needs some kind of substance to get through it, that's a red flag in my humble opinion.
Besides, do you really want those experiences to be only as a result of getting your wife stoned drunk?? I think that says a lot about YOUR character if that somehow seems to be okay with you.
If having such fantasies are important to you, I'd start small and work your way up rather than jumping into the deep end without a floatie. Just my
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I completely disagree that wanting to drink first is a sign she's not into it. My wife loves to have a few drinks and some weed before sex with me, and that doesn't mean she doesn't really dig it. She Really digs it! When we have sober sex, its a nice loving sharing king of thing, and we enjoy that. When we have sex after partying - its an all night no holds barred porn fiesta. We go way, way, beyond anything she allows when sober. But the fact that we do it both ways, regularly, repeatedly, and with no remorse, and in fact taking it further by increments, tells me your wife may just want a few drinks before getting wild. Its not a sure sign she is not into it.
I'd go slowly, by increments, just like submissivemom72 said. And... let her have a few drinks.
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I haven't had the guts to broach it with her but the posts could be right about the fact that she may think ill change towards her if I watched her with another
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There are interim steps you can take and see how she feels about it afterwards. You could dress her sexy, and take her to a bar and let her dance with other guys and play around the edges a bit with the agreement ahead of time that nothing 'serious' will happen. Then you two could discuss it afterwards and see if she liked the idea of dancing (and perhaps a little kissing and being felt up a bit) by other guys, or she feels badly about her actions.
This way she gets the attention and the fantasy without actually performing any of the sex acts that she might regret. The two of you can then go home (alone) and you can fantasize together about what might have happened if (...you invited that good looking black man she was dancing with home with you.)
harmless fun....