I think my boyfriend wants me to be more of a slut and I'm not sure how to go about doing this. Hes always looking at skimpy-clad women online and in front of me. Not sexually really, just to look.
I want to make him happy so I want to get more comfortable with my inner slut but I'm not sure how to do that. I really mean "inner slut" with my style and personality. I'm already a big flirt and neither of us would be comfortable sleeping with other people. Tried that. How can I be more appealing to him but remain dignified?
Any suggestions?
Please, I beg, remain dignified. If your boyfriend wants to be more adventurous and you do too then great. But don't do anything you're not comfortable with, try new things but don't become someone you don't like. If he doesn't appreciate you now then he doesn't deserve you. Looking at skimpy girls right under your nose is just rude. I'll admit, it's very hard to avert my eyes from a skimpy girl, even when I'm with a girlfriend (damn testosterone!), but going looking for it is just not on.
Personally, I like girls that are dignified in public but only show their full sexual nature to me in private; it makes me feel like I'm getting to know a part of her that no-one else knows. Give him something to look at in the bedroom, but don't dress like a slut in public, especially if you don't want to.
At the very least, talk to him, like Abi suggested. Take it from me, us guys are idiots when it comes to picking up on what you ladies are feeling, so just tell him what you think and how you feel, and ask him why he wants to look at other girls when you're right there for him. Keeping an open line of communication is key to making a relationship work. However if he wants to change you into someone you don't want to be, dump the bastard.
Thanks Dancing_Doll. That was what I was looking for. I don't want to change and he doesn't want me to either I just want to do more things to make him happy.
Dirty talk is something we need to work up to as hes kinda shy there but hes coming around.
But again that was very helpful and I loved the story you wrote with the lollypop ;) Thank you.
I have a question ---- does he want that from you in private settings or out and about?