I met a man on here, who's 10 years younger than me. We became friends, and after I broke up with my master a year ago, I started spending more time online with him and ended up falling madly in love with him. He is everything I ever wanted in a man, he's my perfect man, he even gave me the most perfect beautiful gift to prove to me how much he loved me not too long ago, everything was perfect until I asked him to officially change our relationship status to in a relationship. He went mad, told me that it was nobody's business that we loved each others, etc. and deactivated his lush account. But as soon as he did, he opened a second one, added only one person, the girl he had told me meant nothing to him, that he was just there for her because he felt sorry for her, etc.., and changed his relationship status to in a relationship, and she did too! (I know it is his account I confronted him about it, and he did not deny it). I begged him to talk to me again, but all he did was to send me an email on my birthday, telling me he was dumping me. I am not posting this so people can feel sorry for me, or tell me what an idiot I was to think I had found love on here, but I am trying to understand why some men, as I went thru the same thing with my ex master, have to tell you they love you, if they don't mean it? This is lush after all, it's not facebook. Lust rules, not love. I don't tell anyone I am in love with them, unless I mean it. I just don't understand, why some men do that, make you feel so loved, and then dump you over night. And guys, I don't mean to offend any of you, maybe some girls do the same to you, but I would not know. So feel free to enlighten me, thank you.
So they can keep having sex
I think lush is like every other aspect of life.. You have some great people and you have some whack jobs... Why do people do anything they do? They feel there is something in it for them. I personally don't love easily and keep that close to the vest. I am not one to judge anyone for finding love whereever it may come. I think lush is a place where you take from it what works for you and leave the rest. Some people are on here looking for relationships or whatever. And if they find it, thats great. I don't think men are the only ones that play that game. I am sure there are just as many women as men on here that do the same thing. I think some people are really good at manipulating people.. I know for me.. I have had a lot of men try to romance me since i put on my profile that i am recently single. I don't need the attention of anyone, but I think because of my profile, some see me as vulnerable and easily manipulated. I haven't read your profile or know anything about you, but look and see what vibe you are giving off... And remember, this is lush and Lust rules.. Take it for what it is... I probably didn't help at all.. but that is just my opinion on your post.. Cheers.
"I'd much rather be a woman than a man. Women can cry, they can wear cute clothes, and they are the first to be rescued off of sinking ships."
— Gilda Radner
This is playland my dear. Expect reality elsewhere.
they think it's what a woman want's to hear and it will make her panties wet.
Almost sure the thought process goes something like this. "Hey I'm horny, if I tell her I love her she'll be horny for me"
at least that's been my experience
They want sex, und they feel that is what they have to do to get it ...just another men just another hardon talking .
To get all the sex from as many women as possible as often as possible.
So that "in a relationship with" option has caused problems - wow, who'd have thought?
I've heard of similar problems about people asking stuff like "Why am i not on the top of your friend's list? lol" It's right up there on passive/aggressive lushisms with "wow. you have a lot of friends"
Lush is largely one-to-one, you can get away with saying any old shit to dozens of people at the same time and still come off as if you're talking to just one person. A lot of men of will just say anything they think you want to hear if it means they get what they want.
There are a lot of emotionally vulnerable people here, and unfortunately it's very easy to manipulate them. It's reprehensible but sadly it's also human nature to put one's own needs ahead of someone else's. The anonymity of online friendships makes disassociating empathy all the easier.
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Why not read some stories instead
NEW! Want a quick read for your coffee break? Why not try this... Flash Erotica: Scrubber Why? That is the hundred thousand dollar question. The fact is this is a place full of different types of people. You learned the hard way as most of us at one point or another have. We are human and are all here for various reasons. The key is to realize that to most this isn't real, its fantasy land. Take what you are told with a grain of salt and hopefully you will be fine. With high walls and a skepitcal attitude towards what you are told on here will serve you well.
I'm sorry you had to be hurt to realize this, but hopefully, as in most things we learn from our mistakes.
Good Luck to you.
Such a fantastic question!!! Super interested in this answer men
I'm so sorry that you've been hurt Eve, and as others have said, people are on here for many different reasons, but as this is an erotic site, sex is a major motivator. Also. although we all enjoy a safe, anonymous place to enjoy different aspects of or sexuality on Lush, it makes it that bit harder to spot a player for what he/she is. And now you know, you'll use that experience to spot the same signs in a new online friend. Its just the same as in real life, where we just all have much more life experience. If you'd met him in a bar, you'd have had him sussed in 10 minutes...
A lot of men are pigs. You need to find out more about them before you let yourself get involved. Finding out about a mans friends is a good way of finding out about him.
It's already been said, for the most part ...
Men know women are more emotionally motivated, therefore telling her that you love her appeals to her emotions in hope that it will open her thighs
"If you knew what you were doing you would probably be bored."
No man has ever had to tell me they loved me in order to get me into bed. If I was attracted to a man he'd know that was my intention ... maybe even on our first date.
Perhaps that's why no man has ever told me he was in love with me.
I've only ever told one girl that I loved her and it wasn't in order to get her into bed. She seduced me first. It took me awhile to get the nerve to tell her that I loved her, though she told me a lot, and I am now I'm married to her.
My first thought after reading the posted question, simply MORE SEX.
I'm surprised that any relation ship, would survive on this site.. Ok I'm 70yrs young. & what I see on Lush: Almost everything written here is erotic,Most of you are young, The vast majority of you very attractive,A lot of well toned bodies , both Male & female, And there is a lot of lovely skin displayed..
Now the BAD;Distance to travel between you,Ease of interacting with others= probably leads to insecurities, or jealousies, then lack of trust, controlling the others friends. & Lack of PERSONAL TOUCHING / Holding / kissing . IF you are in a relationship , Then I wish you the very best..joel
I wouldn't say that unless I meant it, so I've never said it. Never!
Saying that frivolously could be hazardous to your health. You could be saying it to another Jodi Arias.
Saying "I love you" could get you shot & stabbed in the shower!!!!
There are many emotionally vulnerable people on this site, I am one of them. We are manipulated very easily, and talking from past experience, some people will tell you what they think you want to hear, mostly its to get into your pants.
For many guys use the word “LOVE”, to get in a woman’s pants it’s sad but true. This four letter word encompasses so much power, emotions to one’s heart and hopes and dreams. It took me a few years to say that word to my girl and she knew how I felt beforehand when she told me way before I told her “I love you”. Yes as a fellow man I want to say am remorseful that so many of us use the word “LOVE” for sex with ladies. So when I tell her "I Love you" i mean it and dont expect sex for it but will take a beatuiful smile from her and sparkle in her eyes!!!
This made me smile..
