I want to talk seriously for a moment please.
I adore my wife and she has given me a beautiful daughter who is my world. Our sex life is quite exciting and we are honest about other people we fancy and include them in our fantasizing during sex. Its quite liberating. We freely admit it and she gets off on me calling her their names. We have the usual arguments like most couples but we always pull through.
I mentioned that there have been women i fancy and fantasize about but recently i met a woman who I am really attracted to. It's not a sexual thing exactly since with her I feel its a bit disrespectful and realizing that is what has confused me so much.
Nevertheless I thought it was just a passing thing again until the other day when she learned I might be moving away and we possibly wont see each other again. She came looking for me and wanted to know what was happening and she tried repeatedly to get me alone to talk but we kept getting interrupted by people. Whenever we are together no matter how briefly I feel there is this energy between us but I wonder if its just me and does she only want to be my friend or is she interested as well?
It is exciting but I feel guilty for it because I adore my wife. Should I feel guilty? Have I done anything wrong by wanting to spend time with this girl even though I'm not doing anything and wont?
I get the feeling you already know the answer to this, and let's face it, you are the only one who can judge. I would never pass judgement on anybody for anything they think.
I'm with Hotgirluk26. You are the only one who can judge because only you know what was in your mind and heart.
Like the posts before mine stated, only you know what is in your heart. And I agree. With the name games you talk about playing with in bed...I would initially say no, you're not cheating. But if you are all wound up about never seeing each other again, with a sense of panic and despair, I would question whats going on. Would you be as open with your lady about the panic and despair you feel for the other woman? As open as you are when calling her another woman's name while doing her? No? Then I think you know the answer. We can't be held liable for our thoughts. There are beautiful all around and I'll flat out admit...yeah, I was checking him out...he's hot! (if my guy caught me looking). But if there's more going on with the strings of your heart...an infatuation that you would not be willing to admit to your lady...then be aware. A rule I was told about once upon a time...if you're hiding the truth to avoid a result, then you're treading in dangerous water.
Like the others have said only you know what is in yourmind and heart.
Attraction to others is healthy and normal, but only you can determine whether or not acting on that attraction is the right thing.
"If you knew what you were doing you would probably be bored."
why don't you talk to your partner of your feelings...being honest and open and transparent, the only way to go
Most people get these kind of attractions during a life. This is normal and not cheating per se. Crossing the line to cheating depends on how you act upon your attraction and the limits and communications you have with your SO.
If being attracted to or thinking about another person is cheating, then i have cheated just about everyday of my adult life!!
Of Course it isnt cheating!!
I don't believe it is cheating because you only have an "Attraction" not "Love or Feelings" for that person.
