So, I've been to a party recently and I had loads of trouble talking to the girls that I didnt know. I know I have major confidence issues, can anyone give me some tips on how to overcome my situation?
Note, I have trouble starting conversations, not so much as continuing one. For example, if a girl starts to talk to me, I'm completely normal, but if I start to talk to a girl.......... I have pet pasta and right now it's not talking to meatball for some odd reason.
Parties are generally easier to strike up a conversation with a girl than say, a club. The classic ice-breaker at a party is "So how do you know [party principal]?", which gives her the chance of asking the same question in return. It's a classic because it works so well - you can discover common ground, shared friends you can talk about, interests and work etc
There might also be opportunities for friends to introduce you to people - this is even better because, essentially, your friend is vouching for you.
Of course you can't use these with complete strangers in a club environment but it should help you build up your confidence.
Also remember that some girls can be just as lacking in confidence; don't automatically assume that a stilted conversation is a sign that you're not doing well. There are plenty of other signs that will tell you that.
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Why not read some stories instead
NEW! Want a quick read for your coffee break? Why not try this... Flash Erotica: Scrubber Let me just say I do only make love with girls,But, I am not a bitch and most girls are not. If you just walk up and introduce yourself, most of us respect that and will say hello and be kind back. It will or willnot progress from there. Now If you were to walk up and give me some cheesy pickup line , then I might just say sorry im Lesbian and move on. I guess In other words just be yourself and if she is a bitch then you would not want her anyway.
I tend to have trouble with shyness in "party" or "club" situations too, when I am a stranger. Here's what gets me past the shyness, and nearly always evolves into some sort of conversation: "Hi, I'm _____________. I know this sounds like a pickup line, but I find you attractive, and would like to get to know you in the normally accepted sense of the word."
You'd be surprised at how many women will respond with, "As opposed to the Biblical sense?" and laugh.
I think because it is honest, and because it gets all the sexual agnst out of the way upfront, we can easily move on from there to real conversation.
"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster
Its awfully hard to feel comfortable talking to someone in a sexually pressurised situation, but women tend to reasonably good at small talk, so if you just introduce yourself and try to smile and give her the chance to reply. And if she's not forthcoming, she might just be shy too, so unless she's being really indifferent (or already snogging someone else) its worth trying to keep the conversation going. You may not get lucky straightaway, but you will get more confident in your approach!
honey most people love to talk about themselves
a person who is generally interested in THEM is sexy
but you have to make the effort..if you dont talk to any one..they wont talk to you
so brush up on current events, music, movies, sports and go get them!
you can do this!
Having a list isnt such a good idea it means your going into things with a narrow mind. Just talk to people, any people, all people..............your talking to all these people on here arnt you?? its no different out there
