I am going to be a single dad come june and the mother of my child is trying to tell me that i will have to watch the baby 100% on my own as soon as one month old. Does this sound right? I know i have a long road ahead of me but this just does not sound right to me. What do you think the right age to be having a baby on you own should be?
If you don't have the sense to have used protection in the first place then you have no excuse it's not a woman's job alone to bring up a child in this day and age. A Child is a lifetime commitment and enjoyed not to be ignored grasp the moments you get together and enjoy it.
You have created this situation yourself and now need to be a man and take care of your child. There is obviously a reason as to why the mother of your child is (or already has) leaving you.
Why does it not sound right that you have to take care of YOUR baby? You are old enough to have intercourse unprotected, why can you now not deal with the consequences?
They say a child is a blessing.
What is the right age to be a parent? For some never and that is also a blessing. They get to live the life as they want, and the child that never came to life.. never came to life. Happy too.
You.. well, you will have the child now. If you do not want the child, think adoption. Lots of couples would love to raise one. If on the other hand you want to keep the baby, remember that puppies require about 15 years commitment, while with a human baby, it’s a lifetime. If all goes well, we as parents should pass before them.
What’s fair and what’s not about you and the child mother only you guys know and can establish. Ideally you and her raise the child..together or not.
What you can do regardless of anything (if you want), is to step up and be the best father for your child. You have an idea of how to do that, you have or had a father or a father figure in your life. You know what you liked and what you didn’t, start from there. Enlist all the help that you can from your family and just be there and manifest your love for your child. Lots of work but you’ll also reap rewards from day one.
Than no matter what the future will hold, no money and no one can ever take her/him from you.
Choose n Practice Happiness
Life is simple; we are what we eat and what we read. Talk is superfluous.
Ok first of i love and plan on being there for my kid every step of the way. We had a condom break on us and thats why we are were we are. What i was asking was more ment for the health of the baby. She will be breast feeding and isnt getting what im telling her about pumping if i take the kid as young as one month. She left me because she thinks "if love is not there from the start it cant be worked on" her words and i dont understand music as deeply as her and she cant be with some one that cant. I am just trying to be the best dad i can be.
no its not the same girl in that thread we split but remain good friends.
That was rather harsh. I thank every one else for your reply's. Please do not reply if all your going to do is belittle.
I can kind of understand where you're coming from. If you don't have much experience with newborns, it's a scary thing. I don't either and when my girlfriend left me alone with her newborn one day to go pick up lunch for us, all I could do was anxiously stare at it and pray he didn't wake up and start crying. lol
I've heard it's pretty intuitive though and you learn the ropes pretty fast.
If you're on good terms with her, you should go spend a couple of days with her when the baby arrives so that you can watch what she does and ask questions along the way. You'll probably feel better prepared. Treat it like a job and write things down and take notes - there will be that initial learning curve, but you'll probably get into the swing of things quickly.
If you're able to - maybe see if your mom or aunt or an experienced baby person can spend some time with you during the first couple of weeks you have her, just until you feel more comfortable.
Am I missing something here, is the mom giving 100% custody?
If so, be prepared for a total change in your lifestyle. I was married when I had my children and was really scared but it is very instinctual. Even my ex for all his faults was a pretty good dad back then. But it will be no more drinking with the boys, no more going out to watch football. And forget about sleep!! The baby comes first and it has to be your #1 concern. Hopefully you have a good family support system to help out.
But there is nothing in the world better!!!! Good Luck!!
First of all I wish you the best. Raising a child on your own is tough but you can do it. Millions of us have. The first is always the toughest. Get a good support group to help you and you will be fine.
ok i will try to make this more clear. i do struggle with details. the girl back in April moved out after she broke up with me (i found out later she did it before we started hating each other and could still be friends) i started seeing this new girl and we had a brake (i should have looked better at the condom). A little while ago she broke up with me because she did not see us as compatible couple and i tried to work things out with her but she did not want to any part of it. what i meant by 100% s that she plans on dropping our daughter off to me and for a day or weekend. i was worried that i dont have the right stuff to take care of the child so young on my own. thought the baby had to be with the mother for more then a month but i may be wrong. this is what im trying to find out. The custody is gong to be 50/50. i guess it comes down to in nervous big time.
I have been there for my ex from my post in april she just found out she has a mild case of cancer and other painful medical problems. she has been there for me as well with my child on the way.
please ask any thing if it helps make more sense of this.
I remember leaving the hospital with my first child. It felt like my wife and I were stealing something since we couldn't believe they were just letting us leave with a baby we didn't really know what to do with. Don't worry, you will do fine. There are great formulas out there if the mom isn't breast feeding. Raising a kid is a ton of work and your daughter will need you. Although it is scary, you can handle it by yourself. Enlist any family you have locally if possible. Best of luck!
I don't understand the original post. The way I'm reading it suggests that the mother is going to just give the child to him to take care of and then bail altogether. If that's the case, then you have my sympathies, sir. I wish I could offer you advice, but I don't think I know what's going on here.
Grow the fuck up.
If you need help ask somebody what to do.
You help make the baby and be a father and deal with it.
OP was almost 4 years ago...did the child survive his/her parents?
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