If you always find yourself with women who constantly take advantage of your kind and loving nature, it's time to reevaluate. You can still be kind and loving WITHOUT being someone's doormat. As stated before me, there are women who prey on men like you. Sometimes we just get lonely, and in becoming lonely, we get desperate. Desperation leads to bad choices/decisions. So a woman may come along, and appear to be kind and loving as well, just to reel you in. And once that occurs, she'll pretty much milk you for anything you're willing to give her whether it's attention or something material, all the while seemingly reciprocating the love and affection you give her. This is easy enough to recognize, though. Watch out for women who monopolize all of your time and try to cut you off from everyone else. It may seem subtle and even endearing at first, but it wears on you after a while. Especially when she starts to demand your attention. She may even point out "bad" qualities she recognizes in your friends just so she can isolate you from them.
People with a nature like yours often recognize the signs when it's too late. You're so wrapped up in this person and cut off from everyone else, that there's really no turning back. So in this sense, be extremely careful.
Like I said, there's a way to be kind and loving and affectionate WITHOUT being a pushover. Put your foot down when necessary...and if this is something that the woman won't accept, then you know where you stand with her.
As far as answering your other questions, I wouldn't necessarily call it emotional neediness. But you're probably making yourself too emotionally available and vulnerable. And that's what makes it easy for other women to take advantage of you. They probably shower you with and deny you affection as it suits their needs. They exploit your vulnerabilities and basically have/keep you right where they want you.
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Ms Nikki, that old line of not settling, the right girl is out there, well maam, that is the hot rusty blade in a guys ches. Same with, everything happens for a reason. Yeah the reason is the girl always goes for the bbd, and what collateral damage occurs is giggled about in chat rooms or texts like Hunters boasting of their latest kill
You obviously have a clear idea of how you think a relationship should work but you should really be clear in your head whether you want to be with a specific person or whether you're just in love with the idea of being in a relationship.
If a series or relationships end up going the same way, it becomes pretty obvious that the common denominator is you. That doesn't mean that you're doomed to a lifetime of shit relationships but you might need to reassess the type of woman you're attracted to and what your expectations are.
You say that you're needy but what form does this neediness take? Do you need to know where she is all the time? Who she's out with? The number lock on her phone? Or do you just need constant reassurance that she loves you, that you're a good boyfriend and that she won't abandon you. A lot of women won't find these attributes appealing, but others might. Others might just take advantage of what they see as a weakness.
Being a gentleman is more than just being a gentle man.
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Why not read some stories instead
NEW! Want a quick read for your coffee break? Why not try this... Flash Erotica: Scrubber Or you realize youre too damaged and rather than go through that searing, soul wrenching pain again, you just let the rage burn the need for a normal relationship away and show them the contempt they showed you.
Some point in their life? Im 45, and it has never ended! I am now to the point I cant stop ”projecting” anger. I have the cool job, a cool history, done really cool stuff, yet still, its the pretty boys with a gangster edge that girls fall for. I have tried..and tried to be the nice guy and let this roll off my furry back, but I guess three decades is long enough.
Ok, shows what the focus is on...1) did shave, grows back in about five day. 2) used Nair, grows back in a week.3) wax failed, took skin with it.
Thank you for your input. And I tend to make too many references because its been there since I was a teen. Sorry and thank you for your time
Acthally no bs, tried it, jamed it up. And yeah, it burts lik e hell
It doesn't make you less of a man. In my opinion, if you can admit your feelings and own them, you makes you more of a man. I may be wrong, though. Bottom line, though: it's not wrong unmanly to want to be loved, after all "the greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return"
Am i the only one thinking that if shaving , nairing or waxing only lasts a week or so.... Then do it weekly??
FFS How do you think women keep themselves hair free- Maintenance!
I'm not pitiying hair on you, we deal with it 24/7 to a point.
Not an issue anymore, thanks for the replies,
Removing desire to impress or be with any female. And no not going gay. Same issue, different gender
I'm sick of abusive relationships..
) that you have a tendency to choose either girls in relationships or that have serious problems that you want to "fix". They are emotionally unavailable and worse, emotional vampires that will suck you dry if you let them. Breaking this pattern is critical. Find a confident and unattached woman who doesn't "need" you. You need to be on even ground.
Every person is different in what they're looking for and, almost without exception, every person will be hurt in love at some point in their life. You get over it and move on or, well, you make a lot of posts like yours and wallow in it. 
Seeing that a guy is bitter with "burning rage" is not really a draw for most women and that certainly doesn't make the women bad. 
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