There are many interesting and wonderful ladies here. Some are playful, others with a passion for intellectual discussion and some who favor chatting with a man who they feel a connection with.
Some write their own work and others enjoy the poetry or stories that others compose. Others might spend time in the forums. There are the chat rooms, but I virtually never go there so I will not speak as to what those who do find of interest.
The point I'm making is that one cannot make broad statements about women here anymore than anyplace else, except that those who come to lush seem to be more confident and open minded about life. If you desire their company, you must share this trait.
Interact in the forums and be willing to say something about yourself. You can be playful, but try not to be crude or to assume that any two women are alike. Read their bio's and if they write, take the time to read and understand what they have written. Erotica is much deeper than it appears and every story carries a bit of the writer in it.
If a woman strikes you as someone you would like to know, then prove it by learning that part of herself she has chosen to share. If you write, share a bit of yourself as well.
Get to know people as a friend without expectation and before you know it, you will find that person you seek. And never forget that behind the words you see on the screen, is a real person who is as sensitive and vulnerable as you are.
Starting place I would think, is to write a profile that would be interesting to a woman. When a guy pokes me the first thing I do is read his profile. Many are made up of one or two short uninformative sentences.
The Friends Invitation form has a place for a few brief comments, which you could tell a woman why we would be interested in each other.- Use It!
I have many more female friend, since so many guys fail to make themselves interesting.
I agree with everything aleady said. If you want people to take interest in you then you need to improve your profile. All we know is you are a guy from South Africa, are kind of kinky, have so-so taste in movies and have pretty good taste in music. We need more, LOL!! And remember, I know it is a sex site but its not only about sex. Many of us have other interests too and are not just here to Cyber Fuck!!
Hi Everybody that has answered I have read what you have to say and I most certainly will be taking the advice. Thanks for taking the time to reply.NVcVqaVoyK0pa6AB
You seem to have a one-track mind, all sex all the time. Really, you only have sex-related interests? You have nothing else to say about yourself? You're here because you enjoy sex and enjoy talking about sex and guess what? We're all here for the same reason, but we enjoy discussing other things as well. Your bio makes it seem that you only want to discuss sex and appear very one dimensional, so I would take a pass on that. 
