Have any of you ladies ever had a relationships or experienced flings with men considerably older ( say 12 /15/20) yrs your senior ? Would you agree with what some say in regards to older men being way more experienced in the bedroom, more skillful in sex techniques then men of your own age bracket?
Or is it that younger women are just attracted to older men either because of the maturity issue or are they looking for a sugar daddy?
My husband is 21 years older than me. I fell in love with him because he was charming, funny and interesting. He had done so many things, been so many places, and had so many great stories to tell. I could listen to him for hours.
But even more than that I loved the undivided attention he would give me when we were together. I felt like I was the most important thing in his life almost from the day we met.
The sex was great (and still is). I think he definitely had more to offer sexually than guys in their 20s, but it was his attentiveness and focus on me and my pleasure that really turned me on.
My husband was definitely more financially secure than many men in their 20s when I married him, but he also came with a lot of baggage that a younger man probably wouldn't have--a bitter ex-wife, two teen-aged children, and stressful career.
Overall, I guess I was attracted to his maturity, but I fell in love with him for his character and personality.
My husband is 22 years older than I am. We were friends for a while before we took it further. What attracted me to him was that we both could be ourselves, no matter how silly or crazy, we could both just relax and be us. He is a very awesome husband and I love him more than I have ever loved any man in my life. We get teased about our age difference and get funny looks sometimes, but it doesn't bother us, we laugh at it. People have called him my "sugar daddy" or that he was going through a "midlife crisis" and other things. Those people have now seen that we are really in love with each other, not just each others eye candy. I was not looking for a sugar daddy when we hooked up, so maturity and having a lot of things in common helped make our relationship closer and stronger.
The man I am with now is my age. But I have always been with older guys. I've always had a thing for them. For most all my life I dated older. Up to 5 years all the way to 15 years older. My last boyfriend was 2 years younger then me, this one now is my age.
I've never had an issue with a guy treating me right in every way possible. So to me age doesn't really matter all that much to me. It's playing less of a factor in who I date less and less.
3 intersting replies, but that's it? thought i had an original topic going here, no one else cares to share?
I had a fling with someone almost 10 years older than myself, it wasn't good in any way shape or form. He acted like a child and as for 'experience' no, experience didn't make him any better in bed. I prefer to be with someone just a couple of years older. Though I'm only 18 so perhaps that's the difference, and I've only the one example. Perhaps I was just unlucky!
mine is 14 years older and yes has some baggage but lots of security and a great lover
I live with a wonderful family. The wife is 48 and the husband is 55. I am 20 years old and sleep with both of them. I also sleep occasionally with his son and my best friend. I find that age is no barrier in sex. The father/husband is so polite, experienced and enjoys the 3some. He can make me orgasm while the son cannot. Both have their good points but I prefer the older person as there is more pleasure.
Well I don't think you can generalize and what causes sexual attraction who knows? That being said, I lost my virginity to a guy 15 years older than me and it was wonderful. I do find that older lovers are more attentive, patient and caring. I also find that an older guy is less likely to have wandering eyes when you are out together and will not embarrass you with your girlfriends by looking at their tits and ass every chance they get. I don't blame younger guys, their hormones are just driving them wild I think and they can't help it?? Sometimes the intensity of a younger guy is wonderful and heady, but older guys sure know how to make you feel special. Anyways, look for a guy who makes you laugh, young or old, it doesn't matter.
I lost my virginity at 18 to a 28 year old. Dated men off and on throughout college who were older (seniors-grad students) and am now engaged to a man 15 years older than me. Although he acts like he's 13 sometimes, so it's like I'm taking care of a child more often than not...
I love talking with older men, preferably 10+ years older. Some wanna say it's because of my submissive nature, or peg me as a 'Daddy's girl' but I never was growing up. I think I just like older men because of their sophistication and knowledge. Most men have already lived full and interesting lives and I love hearing about that. Plus, the one's I talk to also like that I'm young and promiscuous ;) So there is that.
I'm still growing as a submissive and it's a fantasy of mine to find an older man I can have as a Daddy.. but that discussion lies in another forum I think, haha!
Most of my past experiences with men have been my own age or perhaps up to about 5 years older with the exception of one man who I recently dated who was 12 years older than myself. Despite the charming and sophisticated ways of many 'older' men, the issue I have found was that they just can't keep up with me in the bedroom - and that goes for men my own age as well! They all seem to over sell themselves on being great lovers and may indeed be skilled in some areas but very few can truely keep up which ultimately ends up being very frustrating. There is a reason why the whole cougar / cub scenarios have the reputation they have, lol.
Having said that, I know that sex isn't everything but let's face it, it is pretty damn important. Perhaps my opinion is a bit biased since I was in a very unfulfilling marriage sexually for WAY too long to an older man. Since I've been single again, I've gotten a lot of attention from younger men (something I've never entertained before) and have found that I do indeed prefer to date them provided they have a brain, a job and a strong character. At the end of the day, it definitely does take more than just good looks, a nice smile and a raging libido to capture and hold my attention.
Not so much....not more than 5-7 years older.
I am an older guy nearly 30 years older than my girl friend but we have been together for 8 years. Also despite my wrinkled decrepitude she is drop dead gorgeous - we get some strange looks whilst out from younger guys but I just think "eat your heart out man she's with me. "
I just read your reply Callista and I give you full support in what you said. That person had no right in attacking you and your adopted family personally. I am saddened to hear of your past and what happened to you. I cannot even imagine what it would be like going through experiences like that. You have now found a job and seem very happy with the family that you live with. Hopefully one day you will met a young guy, get married and live happily ever after. You are as beautiful as any princess in any fairy story and much stronger. In the meantime, treasure the love you are now receiving. Good luck for the future.
Hi Callista. Just ignore lovewhenuswallow. He sounds ignorant and maybe even a little bit jealous deep down. Really, people like he are not worth the air that they are breathing ;-) I just wish to best for the future and am glad to see that you seem to be off to a good start with your present set-up.
I've had a couple of fling with older men. Back when I was 18, 19 i noticed a difference in the skills between the guys that were 10-15 years older than me and guys my own age. The older men being better in bed. Now that I'm in my mid 20's there's not really any difference. Although I would say that with guys who are older often can't get it up as frequently as the younger guys.
, it's not worth it.
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