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Which is more important? Having a good lover or being a good lover?

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When you first have sex with someone, is it more important to you that your partner is a 'good' lover or that your partner thinks you are a 'good' lover?
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being a good lover because if you put effort in to it hopefully your lover will come to meet you
Anything you think is sweet, I'm a little more than that.
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Only by being, can you have.
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Being a good lover is better.
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you cannot have one without the other
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Quote by Happy12
Only by being, can you have.


Yes!
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Quote by Happy12
Only by being, can you have.


Absolutely! Perfectly stated.
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It takes 2 if you are a good lover they will become a good lover
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being submissive i would say being a good lover, my partners needs and desires come first and are most important to me that i fulfill his needs first. in general i think to have a good lover you also need to be a good lover, it comes from that intensity to please each other, those fireworks that explode by having a good lover and by being a good lover
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Quote by Happy12
Only by being, can you have.



EXACTLY
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I think being a good lover, because you can also inspire or teach your partner to become one as well.
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Being a good lover LEADS TO HAVING A GOOD LOVER!
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Quote by Strongat47
Being a good lover LEADS TO HAVING A GOOD LOVER!


Couldn't have said it better myself!
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Being a good lover...
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If you are a good lover, whoever you are with will come up to your standards, making them good as well......
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I'm all for being a good lover, BUT, it stands to reason that if you had a good lover, you yourself would rise to thier "level", in time no matter which one is chosen, the end result should be that, you would both be, good lovers.
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Being a good lover cus I love to please and I get off on pleasing my partner. Once her back arches and the toes curl it's time to really go the exxxtra mile ;) I think when you can totally please your partner everything cums into place ;)
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Having a good lover. why would I want to do all the work?
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Being a good lover of course! It' easy with the right lover.
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Honestly, I think it is good to have both in a relationship. My husband isn't just a good lover, he is a great lover. I feel as if I am being a good lover me. But that's for him to answer. Lol!
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To answer Pinkluva, you are the PERFECT lover for me.

As to the question at hand: I believe that it's more important to be a good lover. Having a good lover is a great blessing, but it seems selfish if that's all you are looking for and you may not grow sexually.

I always try to be the best lover I possibly can be. I do have weak areas but my wife tenderly helps me work through them. (Well, she can be quite rough sometimes, but that works for me too!)







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Quote by Strongat47
Being a good lover LEADS TO HAVING A GOOD LOVER!


So True!!!
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Being a good lover comes first. If you don't have a good lover, then I suppose you can always find a new one (if one is so inclined).
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Being a good lover is the main point of all sex. If I am not good for her, then she will not be good for me. Otherwise, it might as well be hand lotion and tissues.
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Being a good lover is most important to me, i love to please and be pleasing, knowing i am being a good lover is such an amazing turn on

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being a good lover...i gfet off on pleasing for one thing; for another thing, one can often teach pleasure by being a good example.
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I believe it would be more beneficial that the partner be a good lover... To teach what a good lover is all about.