I was about to date this chick and then I found out through the grape vine that she had sex with a guy one night and then his twin brother the next night? Is that slutty? I called her out on it and she got all fired up about it.
It sounds like someone wasn't very discreet.
Not all girls like to be called a slut.
Just because she slept with two guys on two different nights does not make her a slut.
IF it was me, I'd tell you off as well. Not only is it none of your business what I did with someone else, but to listen to gossip about me would make me think you care entirely too much about what other people think.
And I, personally, have never cared what other people think of me unless it's my partner. They are the only other person's opinion that I care about. If he listened to the gossip around town about my past and believed it, and thought he should confront me about it... I would be more than a little upset.
Are you joking?! You interrogated "this chick" that you were not even in a relationship with about something you heard secondhand, and you were surprised she got upset???
I don't think it's up to us here on Lush to judge whether she is "slutty" or not. But I think YOU were way out of line. Since you asked (:
Does having sex with people without the intent to attempt an LTR with them mean they're slutty? Probably. Is that a bad thing? It wouldn't stop me from attempting to have an LTR with them. It doesn't say that they wouldn't be faithful in an LTR. It only says that they're not that fussy when they're not in an LTR. And who but a persnickity person could blame them for that.
I can understand why guys who are image conscious might not want an LTR with the town pump, but if the town pump has enough attractive qualities, isn't that really what matters?
Yeah. That isn't cool. Assuming she did fuck them both, what's the problem anyway? As long as she's being safe it shouldn't matter to you one way or the other. If you were concerned about safety, then you should have just not gone after her in the first place, and if you weren't, then use a condom and don't worry about who she's fucked. Haven't you ever done anything a little slutty?
On the subject of "why the fuck does it matter?", neither my girlfriend are particularly promiscuous, but both of us wound up banging (between the both of us, a total of) five guys in the week before we got together. One of them we had some fun with together, and that's the night we consider our relationship to have begun on. A relationship which, I might add, is amazing. We're quite in love and committed to each other in an extremely long term way now and it doesn't matter in the slightest that we had a slutty week right before we started dating. In fact, it got us out to come out of our shells (sexually speaking) enough that our sex life is probably a lot healthier and more fun than it would have been otherwise. Promiscuity is not the end of the world. In fact, it's often a good thing for relationships if timed correctly.
The slutty town pump in question should just be glad she doesn't live in a country that still stones women to death for such disgusting behavior.
reo did a song about this
but the best quote is.."and the talk grows cheaper on down the line" i believe...
shame on YOU for believing idle gossip
small small people who spread filth..like this...
That doesn't make her a slut.
And thinking about this situation and the way you ask opinions, I would say that YOU are the slut. Ask yourself, "... why am I asking her out? ...". Chances are, if she didn't "put-out" for you within 15 minutes you would have broadcast to the world that she is a slut.
Gramps
The quiet and always horny old guy in Sunny Florida USA
double standard much anyone?And by that I mean from everyone comments here
dude
face it you fucked up royalty
never ask and never care about
the past if you need look up
the word "past"
Oops. Why would you care if she had done twins or triplets on different nights or on the same night. Accept a girl, accept her history. Turn her down because she enjoys sex? Not.
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