Very interesting...
I've been in a relationship for four months and have not mentioned the fact that I have written erotic fiction. I should also say that I haven't written (or, for that matter, read) anything on Lush since the relationship started. And if it makes a difference, only one story on here is based on reality.
It's tricky; I really don't know when the right time to tell her something like that is or if I need to tell her at all. I'm not sure how she'd react and I don't think it's the kind of thing that would spice up our sex life or anything. Part of me thinks that I should have told her early on and that the longer I leave it, the harder it gets.
If she happened to ask, I would tell her in an instant and, if she wanted to, I'd let her read my stuff.
I'm very interested to see other responses here.
I guess my stuff is tame enough not to really cause offense to anyone. Certainly, people that I have told about Lush have very much enjoyed what I've written and a few even joined after...
I do find myself saying to people to ignore the incest stuff - I mean, i'd hate for anyone to think that I was into anything like that - in fact, to be honest, that's probably the biggest downside of the site for me...
There are quite a few people that I wouldn't think about telling about the site, but more because they don't need to know, or I don't want to share that side of me with them.
I do actually get called Mazza by some people, so it does give me a start when someone calls me that now - I think to myself, 'have you found me out?'
Lush has become a big part of my day, so I do like to tell people or talk about it when appropriate...
Thankfully, I don't have to tell my special someone about Lush as he already knows...
As I've mentioned in my latest story, Alannah and My Loins (shameless plug, I know, but I'll get to my point soon) there are now a total of 4 friends who know about my Lushing and erotic writs, one doesn't care, one doesn't mind, the other thinks it's cool and the final friend, well it's all in the story. I have to admit, if friends start talking about porn and erotic stories, I do tend to keep schtum about it, not because I'm ashamed, but I'd rather keep this playground just for me. Of the friends that know, I have told them that the incest stories that I've written were about someone else's family - and it's the God's honest truth that I harbour no erotic feelings about my family, it was actually a challenge I set for myself. Anyway, I'm digressing, I think that if you trust your friends enough, Lush shouldn't be such a big deal for them, after all it's just another place to play.
The person I've an interest in...I've been knowing for about a year.
We've grown very close and the interest is mutual, but we're both
tentative about taking the title of boyfriend and girlfriend.
Anyway, she knows of my membership here, and has read my
published story before I submitted it here. It has never changed
her opinion of me; in fact, she says it heightened her interest.
But to each their own. Maybe it's the style and fashion of my
writing that made it more acceptable to her.
You will know the person better than anyone here, so even
though your fellow Lushies have given good opinion/advice,
it's up to your own discretion.
From my experience this is not a simple answer and is entirely a case by case thing. No girl will ever think "oh okay he writes porn stories on some fucked up sexy mybook dot com type shit... That's kinda cool, not really my thing but its cool I guess. Just a hobby." Then move along to talking about her favorite fucking sushi roll or some bitch at work who is hating on her or whatever. They will either think it's fucking awesome if they read it and like it and ask you to read their writing. OR they will read it and be like, "oh, that's something hehe" And be creeped for a bit.
So I would say that the right time would be when you are close enough to your partner that farting and pissing in front of them, if it is necessary due to unforeseen circumstances, has become something that can be done without batting an eye by either person. This is the type of closeness that transcends freaky fuck stories. So under those circumstances, the partner will think it cool and want to read it or think it dumb and just kinda think it's whatever. I will also say that whenever people have found out it has been because I leave lush open on my computer sometimes and I have been caught... I would probably never tell a girl about writing erotica unless they confessed they did or wanted to or they openly watched porn and loved it or were just twisted enough from my observations that they would like that. But mostly, I think It seems dorky or perverted to people that do not understand it or have read it before.
I agree with clum that erotica does not spice up a sex life. Not for me anyway. So do not mention it for these reasons.
Also, one more thing. Relationships are like chess not checkers. If you have been with a woman for a long time, I would call a long time a year or more. So say you started writing two months into your relationship and you have now been writing for about 10 months or so and you decide to tell her because she's a perv and she'll like it and she does when she reads it and she's like, "OMG you have a hidden talent I want to fuck.. now.. and you know where I want it." And you have a good night, week, month... But then she realizes that you could keep a big secret like fucking writing stories, decent ones, from her for a long time, what else have you kept secret? Then that seed of mistrust is planted. That can happen too. This is a complex thing and the more I think about it the more I think it should remain a secret under any circumstance really.
If you want an honest relationship with anyone it's best to be open about who you are and what you want. Otherwise you are closing the other person out of part of your life. If you write erotica do you really want a relationship with someone who is offended by erotica? Really though, it's better to have a relationship with someone who is also on Lush, then you won't have to worry about them finding out.
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Iam a 54 yr old cd who has a supportive fmily i just published my first story on another site, my wife has encouraged me to do this for years also my step daughter read it and thought it was very emotional
I should probably start by saying this... I hate pornography. I had an ex-boyfriend who was addicted to it, and watched it more than I ever had sex with him (and we were practically together all the time). I think it's incredibly disrespectful. If you love someone as much as you claim you do, then you shouldn't have to look at other girls (or guys). That being said, I would feel wrong being in a relationship where my partner didn't know about my "Lush" life.
I have been writing erotic literature for several months now. I've always loved to write... Poems, stories, anything. My love for erotic literature developed from a series of "sensual" poems I had written previously. A close friend of mine suggested that I join Lush to publish some of the stories I've written and to get opinions on them and my writing in general... And I have. I've received some very helpful hints as well as a ton if compliments and support that make me feel really good about my work! However, I don't think I could be involved in a relationship where my significant other did not know about this. I have a really guilty conscience and it just wouldn't work, I'd feel like I was cheating. I don't think you need to tell "casual" sex partners and friends about activity on here, but if a friendly relationship turns serious... It's definitely time to talk about it. Chances are your partner will be more supportive of it if you tell them up front than if you try to hide it and they find out on their own.
why???why do this???to clear your heart??
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I could only reply that Lush is NOT an S&M website. 
