As a Dom or a Sub
What are the qualities do you seek when looking for a new top/bottom?
Where do you look?
What DON'T you want?
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Quote by Naughty_Magician
I see if she is naturally submissive, I have met some wannabe subs who are actually not fine with being controlled. Experience is also important, its much easier with someone who knows what is expected of them. Finally, honesty and loyalty, it turns me on when I'm sure she is mine and mine only.
Quote by TheDevilsWeakness
As a Dom or a Sub
What are the qualities do you seek when looking for a new top/bottom?
Where do you look?
What DON'T you want?
Quote by TheDevilsWeakness
I think Dom/sub relationship should go BOTH ways.
I don't want a bully (this is not a Dominant - this is someone that abuses the trust and faith the sub has placed in their hands)
A truly good dominant has been a sub or switch in the past (this is just my opinion mind you)
From your posting (again this is just my opinion and I tend to call a spade, a spade) you sound like you want a slave. Someone you can own mind, body and soul and be damned their opinions, wants or needs. I personally think this abusive. Submissives are people, too. We have wants, needs and desires.
If I say APPLE (this is just an example of a safe word) I fully expect my Dom to hear it and immediately stop.
We allow a Dom to play by OUR rules. Because we set the limits and the safe word for if/when you may cross those limits.
In hindsight a submissive actually holds the most control.
I expect my Dom to push my limits and see how far I'm willing to go. This is a journey only the two of you can discover together. Its what makes a Dom/Sub relationship so alluring to me. To allow someone with my best interests to push me where I would never go myself. To allow me to grow as a person, sexually or not. Sometimes its that little push that gives me the confidence to take on that new job, or get that outrageous outfit and take it on with that confidence.
My Dom is my sexual cheerleader that has the ability to impact the rest of my life.
Quote by Naughty_Magician
I see if she is naturally submissive, I have met some wannabe subs who are actually not fine with being controlled. Experience is also important, its much easier with someone who knows what is expected of them. Finally, honesty and loyalty, it turns me on when I'm sure she is mine and mine only.
Quote by TheDevilsWeakness
I think Dom/sub relationship should go BOTH ways.
I don't want a bully (this is not a Dominant - this is someone that abuses the trust and faith the sub has placed in their hands)
A truly good dominant has been a sub or switch in the past (this is just my opinion mind you)
From your posting (again this is just my opinion and I tend to call a spade, a spade) you sound like you want a slave. Someone you can own mind, body and soul and be damned their opinions, wants or needs. I personally think this abusive. Submissives are people, too. We have wants, needs and desires.
If I say APPLE (this is just an example of a safe word) I fully expect my Dom to hear it and immediately stop.
We allow a Dom to play by OUR rules. Because we set the limits and the safe word for if/when you may cross those limits.
In hindsight a submissive actually holds the most control.
I expect my Dom to push my limits and see how far I'm willing to go. This is a journey only the two of you can discover together. Its what makes a Dom/Sub relationship so alluring to me. To allow someone with my best interests to push me where I would never go myself. To allow me to grow as a person, sexually or not. Sometimes its that little push that gives me the confidence to take on that new job, or get that outrageous outfit and take it on with that confidence.
My Dom is my sexual cheerleader that has the ability to impact the rest of my life.
Quote by TheDevilsWeakness
In hindsight a submissive actually holds the most control.
I expect my Dom to push my limits and see how far I'm willing to go. This is a journey only the two of you can discover together. Its what makes a Dom/Sub relationship so alluring to me. To allow someone with my best interests to push me where I would never go myself. To allow me to grow as a person, sexually or not. Sometimes its that little push that gives me the confidence to take on that new job, or get that outrageous outfit and take it on with that confidence.
My Dom is my sexual cheerleader that has the ability to impact the rest of my life.