Being collared? Isn't that followed by the police reading you your Miranda rights? LOL
"you have a right to be silent....If you need an attorney will will be provided to you....?"
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It's a very special commitment in a D/s relationship and something not to be considered lightly.
My response is stolen directly from my post over in MistressS's forum topic BDSM 101...but I like what I said and feel it needs repeating...
Again, I have a wrist cuff, not a collar (work reasons) so..yeah
When my Sir gave me my cuff, I cried. When he put it on me for the first time, I sobbed and couldn't stop looking at it. It's beautiful and I am so so so lucky to have it. I wanted to belong, to have that connection, that symbol. And to know that He hand-crafted the pieces, and made one for each of us, it showed me his committment and how he felt about the situation. We didn't go into it lightly, and in having my cuff, I haven't stopped being a bratty sub. (what can I say, it's in my nature)
That being said, it does mean that I have a physical reminder of how much I mean to Him, and how much He means to me. When I'm not near Him, I have that reminder that I can hang onto.
I wear my cuff all the time, even when not with my Sir, and it's a wonderful feeling...knowing that I'm His. That I'm wanted, and loved, and needed. The cuff (collar) is a symbol of dedication--I know I can trust my Sir completely and in giving myself over to be collared, I exressed that trust. I trust Him to keep me safe and sane, to put me into my sub-space when I need it, or want it...and He trusts me to keep Him sane, and to give over control to Him. It's a physical thing...tangible...but it's more than that...
I like wearing a collar and leash sometimes for dirty sex and role-play but for me it's just a moment in time, not a lifestyle.
So I have a question for the collard and cuffed people: Is this similar to an 'engagement ring' or 'marriage' of sorts. I'm not in the BDSM lifestyle, so I'm really just trying to understand the dynamics behind this concept. Also, how serious is this commitment viewed? Knowing that many/most relationships and marriages meet their eventual demise, I'm just wondering how difficult it would be for a sub/master relationship to end and what the "uncollaring" ritual entails? Also.. would a sub seek out another master to collar them or is this considered a 'once in a lifetime' commitment only? And lastly... can you be in a relationship or marriage to one person and be collared/cuffed to a different "master" or is this prohibited?
I am very curious about the answer to Doll's questions.
Priests are collared, right?
Priests are collared, right?
Dancing Doll raises some of the questions that I have as well. I have known a few dominatrix, professional and lifestyle, and the question of will has always been the focus of our discussions. In our conversations they have expressed that when they have been given their partner's, or client's, will it is a profound moment. One that is very exciting and powerful, but it is mixed with a sense of gravity and great responsibility. So to give that moment reality, in the form of a collar or cuff, is something they did not take lightly. Although this is only from one perspective. I have probably met some submissives, but they have never revealed themselves as so. Hearing SubTiggy's or jwowman's account provides insight, and gives rise to new thoughts, hopefully they will lead to new questions.
to tell u the truth, i dont think it means anything on here. noone keeps to being collered
Fugly, Thank you for the explication. I am far better informed now than I was this morning and I see this in a new light. I had not thought of the uncollaring, but it must be a terrible event. To give up something that is a part of you. More to think about. Thanks again.
I would totally agree with SubTiggy's response and with Fugly's answer. For me I have but one Master, but anything that is outside of my ownership to him is not discussed, as long as I am available to serve when he requests. Now that being said, my Master is very understanding of the fact I have a child and work. I have not been collared in the literal sense (although I have begged it), but it is an ownership marked by metaphysical bounds that I cannot explain or put forth into words. Hope that helps to a degree.
I'm not sure how to really answer this. But I'll give it a try. To me having a collar means u are in the lifestyle and that u are most definitly the property of your mistress or owner. I also think that even in the event of lack of a physical collar, there is a mental collar that remains around a sub/pup's neck for life.
To me "being collared" means I have passed all the tests and requirements of my master/mistress and it is the outward symbol of their pleasure in making me theirs. It is an important step and I always yearned for that symbol of ownership and acceptance. To me, it was the make or break of the "relationship" we would share.
What does it mean to you? how did it happen?
There is a difference to a person who truly lives a BDSM lifestyle to those on here that use it often as attention seeking to get views etc. A true sub will only speak when they are told to and not cyber chat - unless they are in the same room with their Master and are being told to. A real sub would not go in the chat rooms by themselves - they would wait for their Master.
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