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Rookie Scribe
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Hi guys,

I've not had a sexual partner for 6 years and circumstances with myself and relationships has made me feel like I've lost my sexual drive. It doesn't bother me too much, but I worried that I wont know how to please or to be pleased if I find myself in a sexual relationship again.

Does anyone have any tips or advice?
Constant Gardener
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I went a little over 4 years, celibate...from my mid to late 30s. I was more anxious about reentering the entire singles meat market scene than I was about any type of sexual contact which I was indeed hoping to initiate.

The sex part is like riding a bicycle, I feel. A little clumsy at first, then you get the hang of it - it all comes back to you. I wouldn't worry much about that aspect.

Yanno, besides...worrying is one of those uniquely human emotions which really is more of a waste of time and energy, than anything else.

Get back up in that saddle and save a horse...yanno, ride a cowboy or something.
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Advanced Wordsmith
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Don't worry it's like riding a bike, something you don't ever forget how to do. I can't say I ever have been as long as you but have had my time I did go for a while. I promise when the right person comes along & they "do it" for you you'll be ready to jump back on the saddle. lol! Don't stress over it to much, it'll all work out when the time arrives.
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"It's been so long, I forget who gets tied up."
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Reading erotic stories should help you out.
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Practice makes perfect
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Quote by WellMadeMale
I went a little over 4 years, celibate...from my mid to late 30s. I was more anxious about reentering the entire singles meat market scene than I was about any type of sexual contact which I was indeed hoping to initiate.

The sex part is like riding a bicycle, I feel. A little clumsy at first, then you get the hang of it - it all comes back to you. I wouldn't worry much about that aspect.

Yanno, besides...worrying is one of those uniquely human emotions which really is more of a waste of time and energy, than anything else.

Get back up in that saddle and save a horse...yanno, ride a cowboy or something.


Great advice. I too went through a dry spell for longer than I would have liked. Needless to say, I was ridiculously nervous (not to mention horny) about how I'd get my groove back but like WellMadeMale said, perhaps a tad clumsy at first, but in no time I was back and BETTER than EVER I might add! (It's amazing how a dry spell can make you feel and act like a porn star when you finally have sex again, lol).

Over thinking it and getting yourself all worked-up about it will just make things worse. Relax and enjoy the moments leading up to it then take a deep breath and 'get it in' like the man you know you are.
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and here I am complaining about 5 weeks of no sex lol
Lurker
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Jeez, and I get bitchy if I have to go even a day!
Lurker
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need urgent sex....missing my old sex life
Active Ink Slinger
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No need for concern. I had a long dry spell prior to and then during a long divorce. So, my experience with dry spells is that the mind is the ultimate sex organ. Once you find some one attractive both physically and mentally, your brain will get the passion going and it will be like you never skipped a day.
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No need for concern. I had a long dry spell prior to and then during a long divorce. So, my experience with dry spells is that the mind is the ultimate sex organ. Once you find some one attractive both physically and mentally, your brain will get the passion going and it will be like you never skipped a day.
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I have not had sex in over 7 years, due to my husband cutting me off, I have not lost my sexual drive, far from that, sex is all I think about, swore I'd not have an affair on this husband, but I've changed my mind, masturbating is getting quite old...
Advanced Wordsmith
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let nature take its course, it will come back to you feverishly
KimandDave
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Been in a sexless marriage for over 35 yrs now, yes it's tough sometimes but sleeping in separate rooms helps.

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this thread is old.


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I think that a sex deprived marriage is so sad and it really breaks my heart when I hear about people's spouses just leaving them in the dark. I understand that sex or physical intimacy isn't EVERYTHING to a relationship, but it still makes up a good portion of what holds it together. We're supposed to satisfy our partners even though life sometimes gets in the way of things.

I hope that when I'm old as hell, my sex drive remains the same and my man is there to help me out.


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I agree with ToshloveCC's sentiments but suspect that there are lots of marriages that are devoid of sex or intimacy as mine is and has been for years now. Yes it's tough and frustrating and I still want her but I know any attempt at an advance upsets her so you get used to it being like brother / sister type relationship and outwardly no one knows.

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lets see y wife passed away 2007-eversince been on hormones -transising ftm only thing I could is either suck it or eat it like to do both
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Quote by Sam127
I agree with ToshloveCC's sentiments but suspect that there are lots of marriages that are devoid of sex or intimacy as mine is and has been for years now. Yes it's tough and frustrating and I still want her but I know any attempt at an advance upsets her so you get used to it being like brother / sister type relationship and outwardly no one knows.

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I'm guessing you are in the "I love you, but I'm not *in love* with you" stage. I'm to the point now I would *not* want her to even approach me. We share a house and occasionally travel together.

Sam127: Thanks for reading ... and favorite listing ... part 1 of My Life Between Virginity & Celibacy. Part 2 is posted also. I just happened to notice that when I saw your profile.

Rick