Are there many office-workers wearing tube-tops while sitting at their desk these days?
Unless the woman is in a porn film, a strip club, or a bikini contest, I'm pretty sure she's hoping you'll be noticing the entire package, rather than just her boobs... so it doesn't really matter how you look at them, as long as you do it discreetly.
Sometimes we wear low-cut or provocative tops to go out but it's usually aimed at adding to one's overall sex appeal.
If a woman is flirting, she might want to entice you by leaning forward so that you can see her cleavage, but you'll know there is sexual interest there before she does it. A random woman picking up a dropped pen or leaning down to tie a shoelace does not fall into this category.
I like to look sexy when I go out, but a strange guy openly leering at my boobs is not a turn-on for me.
What pisses me off is the women who dress with their tits hanging out without a bra and then get upset if you look.
If my boobs are on display, you should know I want to be seen and noticed
I could be at work, shopping and certainly if I am out for the evening.
I know many woman get upset at guys looking at their boobs, but it really does not bother me.
If mine are showing, feel free to take a look, but remember there are other goods that some say are of interest a[/color]lso.
If someone wants to look at my boobs, then look all you want. I am not ashamed of my body. Many women get annoyed if someone looks at their boobs, but if you are wearing a low cut top, what do you expect? Isnt that the reason you wore that, to look sexy and maybe to show them off a little. Sometimes I dress sexy for myself, but usually it is for others, either the person Im with or just to look good. I mean a little glance is harmless. If someone is leering or going out of their way to look, maybe that would be a little uncomfortable, but a little peak and a smile is always OK with me.
Its when they stop looking, thats when Ill be worried!
I've gotten used to guys looking even the blatantly obvious ones. Do I ever dress to encourage looks? You bet I do. I wouldn't wear a "tube top" to work, but I have gone braless there with the right top on.
It's amusing when a guy just leers over my boobs but I'm not offended. Obviously if I dress to show my boobs I want to be looked at and a good long stare is OK. But after that please notice the rest of me too.
I know this is Ask the Gals but I thought I'd share an experience. This happened just a few weeks ago. In the shop that I run a young lady came in. Early 20's. She was wearing a V-Neck shirt with a very low V. Between her boobs she had a silver stud piercing. It was impossible to NOT look. I'm drawn to boobs anyway.. add a flashy, shiny, shimmering, twinkling piece of metal and it's a done deal. Now, of course she caught me "glancing" and she was quite annoyed. But come on? Is it really THAT surprising that a guy looks at that? I understand that women don't want to be ogled all day everyday. If they are on display, guys are going to look.
edit... glancing and taking a quick appreciative look is one thing.... ogling and drooling and other overboard behavior is a whole different ballgame. I understand that difference.. I think. Or am I wrong all together?
When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates yes! I wear low cut tops at work and it always gets me attention. I've been in a relationship so long, he doesn't pay as much attention to my body as he used to (only natural) so it's nice to think to myself 'I've still got it' occasionally!
Clothes can hide what you don't WANT seen.
Staring drooling and other childishness is immature.
That said cleavage is a secret weapon wielded well by us don't ya know.
Braless is a conscious choice; not always just for comfort ;)
I completely get what Lafayette and Fenton are talking about. I can see why it would piss them off when women have that attitude. I have watched women dressed as they describe getting angry when guys keep looking.
Even open leering and staring is no reason to be upset. It just means that the guy has not learned the subtle way to take in the view. When I am wearing a particularly revealing top, I am usually wearing either just as revealing of a skirt or tight pants, too. I also, would like the rest of the package appreciated, as well, but I could understand if the guy is paying more attention to say the chest if he is a boob man.
Either way, it is stupid to dress provocatively then be upset when it works. So, don't get pissed off, guys. I would say the vast majority are quite pleased to have what they are showing appreciated.
I know what you are saying, doll, and I agree. Paying more attention to the boobs, as I said, is understandable. Intense focusing and near drooling as well as the other actions you mentioned is creepy and immature,
When I said it would not upset me, I meant that my peace of mind and mood is not going to be ruined by some gawking stranger who has not learned how to be subtle.
I was directly addressing what Lafayette and Fenton had described. The responses they got for looking at what is blatently and provocatively displayed is uncalled for and is probably coming from an inexperienced immature girl and guys should not let her getting upset piss them off. I probably should have quoted them to make it clearer that it was to their experiences I was responding.
ponder a society without clothes
what is not seen is maybe sexier than what is exposed.
provocative vs overt
Yes.. in agreement with Amber. But it didn't really piss me off, I was annoyed at her annoyance, you know? And to Doll's point, in my mind when I'm discussing "looking at em" I'm talking about the quick appreciative look, the pleasant surprise of unexpected cleavage. Not a full blown hard-on inducing stare/ogle/leer. But your example of being in your tank top, yoga pants, ponytail.. for some guys (most guys) that is an even hotter and more appealing look than when you are dressed for a night out on the town. We LOVE that look. If I see a woman wearing that, I'm going to take a peek. I'm not going to walk around following her waiting for the best angle to look down her top. However, if by pure providence that opportunity happens, I'll glance there too.
Think about it, if your fave female LushCrush walked in a room wearing tubetop and yoga pants.. you'd take a look too right?
When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates