My guy will dance around the subject to avoid just answering a simple question like, "How do you feel about ...?". I'd like some feedback on why is it so difficult for guys to answer a question about how they feel. Feedback please!!!!!
Generally, the answer will be something you really don't want to hear. It will hurt your feelings or make you mad. But a good rule to follow is if guy says something that can be taken 2 ways and one them make you angry or upset WE MEANT IT THE OTHER WAY
cfl2005's answer is perfect, I agree.
We don't want to piss you off because that means our day is going to suck.
I don't say this often (LOL) but I agree with Felix (kidding)
Too many times we as guys have answered a question directly, to only have it ruin a day and maybe get cut off from sex for while. We dance around the subject and ask more questions to see how you will take our response. Depending on the day the response may vary, but I try to know more about her mood and see where I go from there.
I have no problem with a direct answer to a direct question, I am very opinionated, if you are ready for an answer then ask away, but if a gal is just bs'ing around then that is when us guys get shifty.
I have to agree with most of the other replies. There always seems to be a downside to an honest answer. Even to the most basic of questions. For example, do you like this dress or the other one? No matter which one we choose, it usually gets turned around to why we don't like the other. Which then further gets turned around to that there is something about you we don't like. Even if the reason we don't care for the first dress is because its a god awful paisly pattern...So instead of giving the truth, we tell you what it is we think you want to hear. It just makes our life easier. Much like when we ask your opinion, we want to hear what we want to hear. We know its wrong, we know we probably shouldn't, but we want to hear that its okay.
You guys need to stop dating such neurotic women... then you won't have to censor yourselves for fear that you might set off the big estrogen bomb.
The cynic in me would say that "estrogen bomb" is redundant.
When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates the same reason girls dont say what they feel!
i myself say whats on my mind no matter what, why dont girls say how they feel. It's always nothings wrong, or i dont want to talk about it... i dont get it.
yah i thank they just dont want 2 set off a bom as they say lol
I agree with the consensus here. We don't answer direct, blunt or even honestly, because the truth usually leads to a hell to be paid. Hey, I answered honestly enough times, that I've been cut off going on 4 years now... When my wife asks me a question, a loaded question like "how do you feel..." I have to dodge it. 99% of the time, my answer will be wrong, if I answer truthfully. And that is frustrating, because I know better than she, how I feel... Hehehe... But its not just my wife. I see so many of my friend's wives do the same thing to them. Doll is very right, that it is not ALL women... but I have noticed it to be common enough.
As for the men versus women... I forget who said this, but I've found it to be very true...
"Women marry men, in hopes they can change him. Men marry women, hoping she will never change."
And therein in lies the problem... neither accept each other for who they are...
CFL hits it on the head there... about men. My wife cut me off years ago. I'm still with her, I don't cheat on her...because I love her. If she can't understand that, I have no clue how to better express it. I stick by her, provide for her, take care of her, nurture her, listen to her, and abide her wishes that I not touch her... if I didn't love her, I would've kicked her out on her ass a long long time ago! But I digress...
It just seems it would be a lot easier, if she simply handed me a 3x5 card, instructing me on how I should feel about a particular topic, so when she asks, I can give her the perfect answer... and harmony would reign. Flash cards could've saved my marriage!! *lol*
Cause life would be to easy! How boring would it be if I told you how I felt? Its not what I'm feeling, its the process of finding out what I'm feeling. The mystery, the questions, the arguments, the understanding and compromising are the building blocks of a healthy relationship. You have to continue to evolve as a couple or else things become too complacent and than one decides to move away from their core values.
coz men are too tough to express 'feelings'..of course
Normally we are too afraid to take a stance. Most of your questions are loaded so no matter what we answer, we will be in trouble.
I am always so Careful as the woman I am with is always looking for other answers! Scary LOL
17 years ago, I picked my then girlfriend up from the community college she was attending at a bit before 6pm on a Friday evening.
15 miles from home, and starving I suggested I take her out to for a nice meal. "You choose the restaurant, babe." How can a guy go wrong with that invite?
Seven restaurants/parking lots and 150 minutes later...and, 30 miles on the odometer after I popped that question to her, we drove through TacoHell and got some crap to eat on the way home.
The first few places we went to, she changed her mind and instead of Italian, wanted Oriental, then a steak house, then something else...then it was dinner hour on a Friday night and the next few places had waiting periods of 20 to 60 minutes before we could get seated.
"How do you feel about Mexican food tonight, instead? Oh, you know what would be good...(blah blah blah)"
Arrghhhh
I knew right then, to offer in the future, but to make those mind-bending decisions myself when it came right down to brass tacks.
And any man knows: "How do I look in these jeans?" "How do you like my hair this way/color/length?" "I would like another baby, how do you feel?"
Dudes have those questions already pre-thought and the suitable answer sitting in their RAM banks for the future occasion to roll the right answer out.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
i allways tell the truth. it may hurt at first but she respects me for doing so
The answer 'I'm horny', is rarely respected as a 'feeling'.
But most guys 'feel' that.
Most women say that they want to know what we think and then when we tell them they get upset
BrindleChase said it exactly.
I have to agree with most of these posts. To be fair, a lot of women get mad when a guy is completely honest, and pissing someone off is something most people like to avoid. I think there just has to be a level of trust in the relationship, so both are completely comfortable talking about how they feel.
I'm the kind of girl you want in your bed ;)
It's because we hate to have the wrong answer and get you ladies mad. we just like to keep the peace...
Even a broken clock is right twice a day!
I'm not always like this though ha ha
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