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if guys approach you a lot in bars and stuff how do you let them know youre not interested
i find that if you tell them youre a lesbian they hastily back away
Quote by Gabranth
I was pestered by a gay guy.
Initially flattered, I declined. He persisted.
Again, I gently declined.
Once more, he made a sexual advance.
I took out a straw from my pocket and handed it to him.
"Whats that for?"
I smiled at him and said:
"Thats what you'll need when I break your jaw."
He paled, threw money at my feet, then bolted.
Case closed.
Quote by Loislane
Last time i said I was a lesbian couple and indicated my friend he demanded proof and wanted me to kiss her...I just then got angry and told him to bugger off...
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Last time i said I was a lesbian couple and indicated my friend he demanded proof and wanted me to kiss her...I just then got angry and told him to bugger off...
When I go out with my lesbian friends, they always get approached by guys who demand the same thing. They find it very offensive.
Sometimes girls I'm out with will tell guys that I'm their boyfriend. That seems to work a little bit better.
Quote by bikebum1975
Hey if they bug you just flat out tell the to FUCK OFF LOL
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Hey if they bug you just flat out tell the to FUCK OFF LOL
Sadly I've encountered a few psychologically unstable people where this doesn't always work. If someone has deep-seated and unresolved issues, it can actually have the opposite effect and just fuel them on to more harassment.
Quote by She
I still remember a guy because I hurt / hummiliate him with my long mouth.
I was so sorry afterward but the damage was made. He was really nice and quite unconfident guy and I saw it in his eyes that he did not expect the bitch to come out of me. Since then I am very careful not to degrade a man who was collecting his courage to confront with a girl.
And my NO is always polite but laud and clear so that he can get the massage through.
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I still remember a guy because I hurt / hummiliate him with my long mouth.
I was so sorry afterward but the damage was made. He was really nice and quite unconfident guy and I saw it in his eyes that he did not expect the bitch to come out of me. Since then I am very careful not to degrade a man who was collecting his courage to confront with a girl.
And my NO is always polite but laud and clear so that he can get the massage through.
Haha, this is one reason that guys are hesitant to approach women at bars. I remember when I was younger, I spent a lot of time working up the courage to talk to a girl. Then I finally walked over to her and before I said anything, she yelled at me to "fuck Off!" I didn't talk to any more girls for the next month or so.
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I still remember a guy because I hurt / hummiliate him with my long mouth.
I was so sorry afterward but the damage was made. He was really nice and quite unconfident guy and I saw it in his eyes that he did not expect the bitch to come out of me. Since then I am very careful not to degrade a man who was collecting his courage to confront with a girl.
And my NO is always polite but laud and clear so that he can get the massage through.
Haha, this is one reason that guys are hesitant to approach women at bars. I remember when I was younger, I spent a lot of time working up the courage to talk to a girl. Then I finally walked over to her and before I said anything, she yelled at me to "fuck Off!" I didn't talk to any more girls for the next month or so.
Aww.. thats really mean. Sadly I have a few girlfriends like this. They seem to get off on being able to say "Fuck Off" and slam guys before they even have reason to be slammed. I've never understood this. Everyone deserves to be treated politely and with respect on the first approach.
Quote by WellMadeMale
Yanno...I've been going out socializing since I was 18 (back then you could drink alcohol in the state of Kansas @ 18). Off and on all my life to nightclubs, bars, strip-joints, town and county fairs, private parties...just about anywhere you can think of where men and women would socialize and alcohol may or may not be present. Wedding receptions, etc....
I have never been told to "Fuck off" or "Go fuck yourself" ... by any woman who I have attempted to converse with.
Granted, I don't just pay my admittance fee and rush up to the first woman I see standing alone or with her friends and make it appear as if I'm going to glom onto her.
I've seen guys get shot down. But not verbally and in such a definitive and unprovoked manner. Usually it was done with an arched eyebrow, cocked head or perhaps a smirk and eyeroll.
I'd have to see what some of you are talking about happening, to believe it.
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Yanno...I've been going out socializing since I was 18 (back then you could drink alcohol in the state of Kansas @ 18). Off and on all my life to nightclubs, bars, strip-joints, town and county fairs, private parties...just about anywhere you can think of where men and women would socialize and alcohol may or may not be present. Wedding receptions, etc....
I have never been told to "Fuck off" or "Go fuck yourself" ... by any woman who I have attempted to converse with.
Granted, I don't just pay my admittance fee and rush up to the first woman I see standing alone or with her friends and make it appear as if I'm going to glom onto her.
I've seen guys get shot down. But not verbally and in such a definitive and unprovoked manner. Usually it was done with an arched eyebrow, cocked head or perhaps a smirk and eyeroll.
I'd have to see what some of you are talking about happening, to believe it.
Hmmm....Maybe its only in Canada that women act like bitches? hehe. JK.
I've only had one woman outright yell at me in 12 years. You are right in that most just "act disinterested." It also depends on the type of bar you are at and the type of city. In higher class nightclubs in larger cities, the women usually have significantly less tolerance for unwanted guys.
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Hmmm....Maybe its only in Canada that women act like bitches? hehe. JK.
I've only had one woman outright yell at me in 12 years. You are right in that most just "act disinterested."
It also depends on the type of bar you are at and the type of city. In higher class nightclubs in larger cities, the women usually have significantly less tolerance for unwanted guys.
Quote by DamonX
Hmmm....Maybe its only in Canada that women act like bitches? hehe. JK.
I've only had one woman outright yell at me in 12 years. You are right in that most just "act disinterested." It also depends on the type of bar you are at and the type of city. In higher class nightclubs in larger cities, the women usually have significantly less tolerance for unwanted guys.
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Hmmm....Maybe its only in Canada that women act like bitches? hehe. JK.
I've only had one woman outright yell at me in 12 years. You are right in that most just "act disinterested."
It also depends on the type of bar you are at and the type of city. In higher class nightclubs in larger cities, the women usually have significantly less tolerance for unwanted guys.
Your assuming manner is as vivid as your generalities are frequent.
And now I see, much clearer, why you might encounter this behavior more often than other men. You're quite possibly hanging around the nightclubs too long, man. That and you're not taking all factors into consideration, perhaps?
Mix copious quantities of alcohol with increased duration of exposure to inebriated social retardism, then combine this all with women who are tired of being approached by said morons and of course, you'll see more aberrant behavior.
While I've never been to Europe, Australia nor Canada...I have lived in Santa Monica for seven years and visited many larger cities in America. At every site I've ever visited, I have taken in and enjoyed the night life.
I'd venture to wager that there aren't many higher class nightclubs or larger cities in North America, which you may have frequented -as often- in your many years of your playboying bachelorhood, than have I, in my - I'm also guessing, slightly longer duration of engaging women with both subtle and direct flirtation, polite conversation and outright propositioning.
I've always been quite game when it comes to engaging women of all cultures and social strata, I'm still calling your comments, difficult to believe without further tightening up the criteria for why women would behave so rudely, if they are unprovoked to do so.
Perhaps those higher class nightclubs you frequent in your part of Canada allow social retards to enter and congregate in greater numbers, which then enables every smart woman with a pulse to wonder why she has even bothered to be at the same locations, but I doubt that, too.
I also seriously doubt that women are any bitchier because of geography, although the winters do last a bit longer in Toronto, Montreal and Quebec, than they do in LA, San Diego, Las Vegas, Dallas, Chicago or Kansas City.
What I would suggest is that I've noticed that alcohol consumption tends to play a large part in the lowering of inhibitions for both those social misfits (before they ever approach women) and those same women, tired of being bombarded all night long by men who have all the grace of a drunken lumberjack, getting fed up in 0.6 seconds, with the assistance of a few cocktails of their own.
Hell, I've even witnessed physical violence in clubs, especially when I've stayed til closing time.
Who hasn't been accidentally splashed with a drink, thrown at some drunken moron who can't take no for an answer, before? Who hasn't seen a guy get his bell rung by a well placed slap, his reward for an uninvited grope? Who hasn't knocked some asshole into the next week, because said asshole decided to use someone's girlfriend or a friend who's a girl as his own toy, totally disregarding her accompanying date?
You mix the last three hours of any night in any club of any social strata, Damon - any, and I've been to 'em all...where the desperate are hitting on the desperate, and fireworks will be often be witnessed. I can almost guarantee it. And I can definitely see it about to occur from fifty feet across a nightclub or bar.
But a sober, gentlemanly, and considerate approach being greeted with F-bombs? If that happens, then you are in the wrong part of town. Whether it's in bumfuck Colorado or upscale Toronto.
Don't want to see it, or get caught up in it? Leave the club with the woman you've either arrived with or seduced prior to 10 pm.
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Ok. What I said about Canada was a joke between Dancing_doll and I because we are both from Canada and we both have witness women acting rudely to men that have approached them. It was not meant to be literal.
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Wow, relax man. I said it only happened to me once in 12 years. The part about Canada was a joke. (As indicated by the hehe, JK). I'm a little bit baffled as to why you took offence to this conversation.
Quote by WellMadeMale
I don't run with dudes, I don't need a wingman.
I do my best work alone, as I am sure you do, too.
guess you guys will just have to go one at a time.