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Posted: Friday, September 2, 2011 9:20:40 AM

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There are pros and cons to any type of dating but internet dating may have a few more cons since you can't really read the person, only what they type. I have been doing internet dating on and off for a while now with almost no success. I have made a great friend because of it but no more. It probly works better in more populated areas as there are more singles looking, but in rural country the numbers are few and far between as everyone already has someone, at least that's more my problem. Long distance relationships are hard to make work so I tend to look close to home and ther really is no one in my area looking for me. I prefer the quiet peaceful atmosphere of the country whereas most people my age like the city life, that is another issue that makes it hard to find that special someone. I'm not against internet dating but I don't think it will work for me.

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I know how you feel. I have a thing for someone on here and we used to talk all of the time until he stopped sending me messages. I just decided to leave it alone and go ahead and do what I do best, me.

Online dating can work, no matter where you are. I'm not going to write it off completely. Once I find mr. Right, then I'll leave the online dating scene.

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Posted: Tuesday, September 6, 2011 9:50:52 AM

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I met and married my wife from online, and long before match.com or eharmony, we met in aol chat room 187. 1996 and have been married since 99. So it does work.

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Posted: Monday, September 19, 2011 6:40:25 AM

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We are both married but started online dating because we had certain sexual desires. The online experience continued for quite a while and got to know each other really well. Later on we had some truly great phone sex experiences until we finally decided to meet in a cosy, quite restaurant. Well, we could barely keep our hands off each other during the first meeting! Of course that was followed by most intimate, exciting sexual encounters in hotel rooms and other places. We still meet whenever we can for a couple of hours of great sex!
Posted: Tuesday, September 20, 2011 1:53:11 AM

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I think the internet is a great place to meet people. I'm quite newly single and have had a couple of dates set up via the net - so far so good, Lush is a whole new world though - changes the order in which you get to know someone
Posted: Friday, September 30, 2011 6:54:05 PM

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I went through a phase of meeting women through an internet dating site. I ended up dating one for just a few months. I also tried AdultFriendFinder twice. The first time we ended up having 2 pretty decent hook ups and that was the end of it. So I tried it again. The second one turned out to be a pro that wanted to charge me money. I didn't use that site again. Now I've gone back to the old fashioned meet someone through friends, social and business functions.

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Posted: Wednesday, November 16, 2011 2:53:42 PM

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I'm heard and went through both good and bad examples, so I guess it's just by person.

Good: One of my friend met her husband through match.com. They date online several yrs ago, met in real life, got married and have a 2-year old kid now. They're still happily married.

Bad: Some yrs ago I met this girl online, hooked up and we decided to meet in real life. Things went well at first and I thought I met the right girl. Only after several months she finally told me that she's still married and this is just an affair for her.

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Posted: Monday, December 26, 2011 9:37:36 PM

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i am currently with a wonderful guy for 2 years and i met him on craigslist from when i posted a personal add so i say give it a try
Posted: Monday, December 26, 2011 10:22:16 PM

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My husband and I met online eight years before we met in person. We have been married for four years. Is our marriage perfect? Hell no, but it's not a nightmare either. We were friends for eight years never with the intention of being together, we were just friends...like modern day pen pals.

It is the modern day singles ad. It doesn't hold the same stigma as it once did.

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Posted: Tuesday, December 27, 2011 12:14:48 PM

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just as everything in life it has pros and cons. have i done it no i havent and dont think i will in near future but it is a good place to find on on same wave length as you and could lead to great things. i have know some to get married only to find it was a front mainly because someone was looking for meal ticket and again others have had good luck with it. take it as you do other things in life and use caution and whatever rows you boat go for it
Posted: Wednesday, December 28, 2011 1:05:27 PM

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I was once in a.. I guess you could say. Long distance relationship. Even though we both talked to other people. I women, her men. But I never really felt like it was a relationship. Al though I never met her, she helped me through a lot by just having someone to talk to about problems and not be judged.

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Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 8:24:13 AM

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I've met my boyfriend online, and we met in person February 2010. We've been together for four years now. He's going to come down again this February... we plan to get married then. He's been my first relationship, and everything has been going great, although the distance has been pretty hard on the both of us. I guess it's a mixture of internet dating and a long distance relationship.
Posted: Sunday, January 15, 2012 10:05:21 AM

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I tried Match Affinity, and had met a few guys years ago when I was in school on msn chat rooms. The msn chat rooms faired a lot better.

But with Match Affinity, I met some guys who were a little odd or just not my type. Or just looking for sex and nothing else which isn't me at all.

It hasn't worked out for me, but other people have more success. I have since decided that I'll eaither meet a guy the old fashioned way but if not I'd rather just be single then be with the wrong person
Posted: Thursday, February 9, 2012 5:10:16 AM

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suezq wrote:
Both of my brothers met their wives online. I used to think it sort of strange, but have since realized how much of a relationship you can build with someone online. I consider my friendships with online buddies to be every bit as real as those with people I've met face to face.

^ 3601

My cousin met her love online, he was from the UK, and when they met up they were just so perfect, they got married soon after and now have children 3601

As for me, most of my relationships have been done online, why? I'm plain shy with new people and heck I don't even have any close ranged friends and having an overly protective mother and man hating aunts(I love them to bits anyway) made it worse. Currently in a relationship with a guy I fell for after getting to know him on , NO not a dating site, but on a game forum. We had mutual interests and from the game forums we got onto Ventrilo and from there MSN and two days later Skype video chatting. I'll cut the story short, he confessed his feelings to me and said he even cried because he was afraid that it would just backfire and ruin the friendship we had. Lol guess what? We've been together nearly 7 months and we're still going strong.

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Posted: Thursday, February 9, 2012 3:08:01 PM

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I tried match.com for awhile at one point...i met up with one person off of it and we didnt really click. Any other girl I tried to message and get to know..i never got any responses. So I gave up.
Posted: Thursday, February 9, 2012 4:11:39 PM

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Pros and cons... I met a few women on dating websites... had a lot of sex... also met my girlfriend online on dating direct affinity... we've been together now for nearly three years... it works but you have to work at it.
Posted: Sunday, February 12, 2012 8:07:26 AM

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Anyone thinking about internet dating should watch the 48 Hours episode 'Screenplay for Murder' [http://www.cbsnews.com/video/watch/?id=7397746n] about a guy who posed as a woman on PLENTYOFFISH in order to lure men into an ambush. It re-enforces the rule MEET IN A PUBLIC PLACE!! I do have a male friend I met online several years back, but most meetings with people met online were 1 time. I would seriously suggest to make the first 3 meetings someplace public and use a pre-paid cel phone for dating. Reason for the 3 dates is to give the person time to trip on their own lies. I've met some really convincing liars. One gal was an "orphan with no family left" yet 2 weeks later her mom and 2 brothers threw her a b-day party.
Posted: Sunday, February 12, 2012 9:14:52 AM

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hmmmmm i actually met my now partner of nearly 4 yrs in may.....on the internet......love at first site!!!!!
Posted: Sunday, February 12, 2012 9:54:10 AM

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I recently joined Plenty More Naughty Fish and i firmly believe its a total scam. Within minutes of joining I received about 10 messages and loosely speaking all entitled somethinh like Aloha or Hi and looking at the message content I would gamble they were system generated. Few people on the site place any photographs and sometimes put like 5 words in their profile. All this for £30 a month !! I have had probably 15 messages effectively trying to lure me to other sites, in particular naughtgirlsonline which of course the message say is free .. is it hell !!. Also messages trying to sell me online security ID verification at £3 a day since .. quote I really want to meet you but need to know that I will be safe (I do note the post above however). In all its been a complete farce and £30 literally down the drain. I think the site pays a couple of people to send out messages trying to keep members interest alive. I will be cancelling the membership before they take the next payment.
Posted: Monday, April 16, 2012 3:38:30 PM

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Posted: Monday, April 16, 2012 4:07:39 PM

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http://www.pof.com/ always used to be free. I'm not sure which site you joined John, make sure you only join a large reputable one, that's my advice.
Posted: Monday, April 16, 2012 4:40:31 PM

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reading this was actually quite refreshing! i thought i'd read a lot of stereotypical thoughts ppl had of online dating. i think you can find a partner ANYWHERE!! if you can meet a potential date while standing in line, why can't you meet someone on a site dedicated to a particular interest? i haven't had luck with online dating, but my meeting them online had nothing to do with it. i'm not searching for anything, but if i happen to stumble upon it, why the hell not?! ;-)

Posted: Monday, April 16, 2012 10:45:53 PM

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A lot of people have success on free adult social network type sites....just sayin' laughing6
Posted: Tuesday, April 17, 2012 8:45:07 AM

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I know a woman who is in her mid 40's and very attractive. She tried the internet dating thing (not sure what site) and met a few real losers and was about to give up and then she met a really great guy and they have been together for a few years now.

I guess it isnt much different then meeting people in bars, clubs, etc. except you have the luxary of getting know them a little before you meet in person.
Posted: Tuesday, April 17, 2012 9:18:18 AM

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A lot of people have success on free adult social network type sites....just sayin' laughing6

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Posted: Tuesday, April 17, 2012 2:56:36 PM

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