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Posted: Saturday, June 12, 2010 3:56:39 PM

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I've talked with many women who claim that they will never have sex with a guy that they just met, but they have no problem performing oral sex. I've always found this a bit odd since I consider oral sex just as intimate (if not more) as vaginal sex.

So you'll 69 me and take my cum down your throat but missionary position is off limits?? d'oh!

I've also known girls that have sex with relatively few people, but yet have no problem sucking off pretty much every guy they hook up with. What is it about that magical orifice, that somehow alters your emotional well-being when a penis is inserted inside it? Is it really that different than using a tongue or fingers?

Or is resorting to oral simply a "get out of jail free card" so that you can satiate your urges, while still keeping your "number" low?

Are you more likely to engage in oral than vaginal when with a guy for the first time?

Do you consider oral sex lower in the kinkiness spectrum of sexual activities? Or is vaginal sex simply something reserved for someone with more of an emotional investment?
Posted: Saturday, June 12, 2010 4:47:16 PM

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I agree, the whole concept of what "technically" constitutes adding a number to your sex-partner list can be a bit of a mindfuck for women. Many don't count having sex with someone unless there was penile penetration... This allows one to act like a slut, while still retaining an image of moral virtue in her own mind's eye.

I know some girls like this as well... and yeah, it doesn't make a lot of sense (except to Lewinsky/Clinton enthusiasts).

In the early stages of my sex life, I did this with a few guys. Mainly they were guys that I wasn't sure I wanted to sleep with and so oral somehow seemed like a functional compromise of hooking up with someone but not having to acknowledge it to myself formally.

My number of "oral only" partners is extremely low, however. For me, once I get naked, I'm pretty much committed to the entire sexual menu... it doesn't happen in stages. I don't see the point of limiting the pleasure, and I don't really subscribe to the psychological hang-up of it anymore. Besides, I don't typically have the kind of self-control required to re-negotiate along the way once the clothes come off...

Posted: Sunday, June 13, 2010 8:57:45 AM

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I've had a few onenight stands back in the day, but I have to be in a serious relationship before I'll suck a guy off.
Posted: Sunday, June 13, 2010 3:48:30 PM

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sexy_tx_rn wrote:
I've had a few onenight stands back in the day, but I have to be in a serious relationship before I'll suck a guy off.

I agree....I cannot put some guy in my mouth unless i really like/love him... or if he does one helluva job on me.. well then I'd enjoy giving it back.
Posted: Sunday, June 13, 2010 3:49:23 PM

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I've given plenty of throwaway, unemotional sex in both oral and vaginal- and anal actually lol. I've never thought about it this way. My thing is always that I don't kiss unless I really like a guy, but I see your point that oral is more personal than vaginal sex. It feels like more of a favor than vaginal sex, since at least with real fucking, we're both getting something equal out of it. If it's simply a sportfuck, or a one night stand, I"m far more likely to have vaginal sex than oral sex, but often both happens.
Posted: Sunday, June 13, 2010 3:49:38 PM

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double post- damn iphone!
Posted: Monday, June 14, 2010 4:18:22 AM

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I think giving a guy oral sex is less intimate than penetrative sex. Before I was married I had a few times given oral to guys on first date but never had full sex unless in a relationship. Since we started swinging we have often swapped partners for oral sex then back to each other for full sex, although recently we crossed the boundary and now have swapped for full sex.

I think giving a blow job or hand job is one step down from intercourse. I agree with Lady X that is often done as a favour or a gift, unless he goes down on me before, at the same time or after :)

I love giving a guy oral, and especially when he cums and you know you have done a good job :) That is such a nice feeling to know you have satisfied the man you are pleasuring.

So yes I'm definitely more likely to give a guy oral than full sex particularly on a first meeting.

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