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Posted: Friday, May 24, 2013 9:55:49 PM

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I have to say I'm 22 and my husband is 27 so I guess I fit the early 20s bracket. We got married when I was 19 and have since had a daughter and twin boys. None of them where planned in fact, its not the case where we didn't used condoms etc we used everything! But even with children I've gone to university got my degree and I can thankfully work freelance from home at the moment.

I have to say from my experience I don't think its the case of people my age having babies as dolls, a few years younger maybe some. But the lack of condom or conception isn't just a teens or early 20s problem I have many friends who are in there 30s who have accidently got pregnant, but it isn't viewed as a problem by society as they are believed to be responsible, and the fathers have stuck around more than my 20 something friends in the same situation. Me, I got told off by a woman while shopping for sitting in my "sisters" (daughters) pushchair while shopping with my mum.
Posted: Tuesday, May 28, 2013 4:39:44 PM

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We had our children at 27, 29 and 34. It worked out well enough for us. Old enough to be somewhat mature and responsible enough to raise kids and young enough to have an empty nest at an age where we are able to enjoy our children's successes and still young enough that we should be able to enjoy ourselves now. Working on that part now. Not ready for grandchildren though.
Posted: Tuesday, May 28, 2013 5:58:10 PM

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I find it rather funny that people say this is "old fashioned thinking" when in reality young women were starting families just as early, if not earlier, than they do now. If that weren't the case then so many people wouldn't look askance at women who aren't married and/or don't have children by the age of 25.

Posted: Tuesday, May 28, 2013 6:22:00 PM

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I had both my children when I was in my mid 20s and never felt like I missed out on any fun at all. I think it is better to have children early when a woman is more energetic and strong and can care for them and also grow with them. Now both are wonderful teenagers and I am in my early 40s and am having the most fun in my life:)
Posted: Sunday, June 09, 2013 7:00:14 AM

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I had my daughter in my early 20's, my husband was in his mid 20's, and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. My mother had recently passed away and I was in a such a state of depression I couldn't do anything. I had dropped out of college, postponed my engagement and was pretty much frozen in time. I was by no means at a point in my life to have a child. It wasn't until I found out I was pregnant that I actually was able to pull myself out of my depression, with the help of medication of course, lol.
With all that being said, I can also state that my dad and his wife started a family a few years back. I love my younger siblings, but I do dislike the fact that my daughter doesn't get "alone" time with dad and step mom and that she isn't able to enjoy doing the things I did with my grandparents because hers have young children of their own.
Posted: Tuesday, June 11, 2013 9:31:08 AM

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I had my first at 23. I was a bit too young and not as prepared but I could never say now that I regret it as I have a precious daughter. As far as having the time of my life, I don't think at 23 I would have had as much fun as I do now even without a child.
Posted: Tuesday, June 11, 2013 11:19:08 AM

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You know, there's something to be said for starting early. Not too early, of course, but mid-late twenties seems about right to me. We had our son fairly late and we're still looking at another 4-10 years of him at home (depending on where he goes for college/university) while many friends and co-workers who are around our age (late-forties for me, mid-fifties for her) who had kids younger are already enjoying the freedom of being empty nesters (and in some cases are grandparents). We'll be staring retirement in the face by the time we have an empty nest.

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Posted: Wednesday, June 12, 2013 3:16:20 AM

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I had my first when i was 20 and my second when i was 22. I wanted to be a young mummy and have always been told im very mature for my age. Even when growing up. Early 20s isnt kids having kids,we have had life experience to sum degree by that age. I love my two children and i wouldn change them for the world. Iv been with their daddy for 5yrs now and wwe are living together happily. Life couldn be better.
Posted: Sunday, August 04, 2013 7:59:28 AM

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I had my children at 30, 33 and 38 and though it worked well for fun in my twenties and career wise, at the other end, if you have them earlier, they are off your hands earlier and you go do some other things, like travel a bit earlier. But when it comes down to it, you have your kids when you are ready.

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Posted: Friday, August 09, 2013 4:59:49 AM

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My sister is almost 21 and she is on her 4th pregnancy. My younger sister is having her first and she is 20. I don't know I feel like I am the sensible one. All my cousins who are over 20 have children too and I am the only one who doesn't.

I am 29 and I have had no desire to have children. I enjoy my child-free lifestyle.

Not sure what the go is on why many are having children now in their 20s. It is many factors from enviorment to tv culture.
Posted: Friday, August 09, 2013 6:32:45 AM

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i got married at 19 and we have tried to have a family once before. I dont think its wrong to start early as long as your ready for it. My hubby is 26. For him he was raised by older parents so he wants to young and be able to physically do things with his children. for me, my parents have died at a young age and i basically want to be able to enjoy my children while i can and leave happy memories for them.
everyone is different i dont look down on young parents or old, aslong as the children are happy and taken care of :)

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Posted: Saturday, October 19, 2013 5:02:59 AM

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I want to have children in my early twenties. When I was a young teenager I couldn't talk to my about anything like boys, sex, drinking and whatnot. When I was when I was 15 my mum was 49. I had childhood where my mum was too tired to do stuff with me like go shopping. It wa like she couldn't wait to kick me out of the home. I mean I understand that after a certain age you don't want to have teenagers in house anymore so I think it's better to have have kids young. I mean you get to get rid of them faster and live a wonderful life with out worrying about your kids too much.
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